Thomas Russel Cali

October 7, 1923 - October 19, 2003

10/07/1923 - 10/19/2003

Past Services

Visitation
Wednesday October 22, 2003
7:00 pm - 9:00 pm
Altmeyer Funeral Home - Virginia Beach
5792 Greenwich Road
Virginia Beach, VA 23462
800-934-4648 | Directions
Cemetery
Thursday October 23, 2003
Colonial Grove Memorial Park
3445 Princess Anne Road
Virginia Beach, VA
Directions
Service
Thursday October 23, 2003
11:00 am
Altmeyer Funeral Home - Virginia Beach
5792 Greenwich Road
Virginia Beach, VA 23462
800-934-4648 | Directions

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Marilyn and Terry Maguire
8 years ago

Dear Meg, Billy, Raymond, Stevie, Celia, Rusty, Tommy, and Sharon,

We’re sending our most heartfelt sympathy to all of you. Thank goodness that both of your parents taught you to be close to one another; I’m sure those relationships will help all of you through this difficult time and the months ahead.

The weekend before Uncle Russ died, Terry and I were listening to the radio in the car and “Take Me Out to the Ballgame” came on before a piece on the World Series. Well, that sent me instantly back to my early childhood in Kearny, and I told Terry about my memories of how your dad often led the cousins in sing-a-longs. “Take Me Out to the Ballgame,” “Lady of Spain”, “Show Me the Way to Go Home” and “That Old Gang of Mine” were some of the old favorites that he taught us and led us in singing over and over and OVER again. We never got tired of it and he didn’t seem to either. Maybe Sharon, Tommy, Rusty and Celia remember this, but I’m not sure if you younger ones would. We’d be down in Gram’s basement or out in the alley playing and he’s come down and say “Who wants to sing a few songs?” To this day I can’t imagine not wanting to.

That memory then led me on to tell Terry about when Uncle Russ would take some of us on “an adventure.” It was always to the same place but it was always different too. We’d stuff as many of us as would fit into a car, and he’d take us to a spot on River Road where he’d show us how to skip stones into the river. We were the equivalent of about 6 blocks from Grams but we really believed we were on “an adventure.” There was always laughter and silliness, but there always seemed to be a teachable moment too, and he so enjoyed the chance to explain something to us or answer a question about something we saw or discovered at the river.

I know how much you must miss him and want you to know that I loved him and respected him deeply too. My heart goes out to you all. I look forward to a time– maybe next summer– that we can be all together for a cousins reunion.

Take care of each other.

Love, Marilyn

Will Downs
8 years ago

God bless your family… you’re in our prayers.

Jillian
8 years ago

Grandpa,

I will always cherish the memories of us together. I always had so much fun with you no matter where we were . I remember trips to the park, the museum’s, the ocean to collect sea shells, and to the base to see the ships. I have to say the best times where spent playing cards at the kitchen table and becoming the best card player on Kilt street. Garmie excluded!Speaking of Garmie I know you have missed her dearly in the last eighteen months. Knowing that you two are together up there makes it less painful for me. Thanks so much for being the best Grandpa ever! I’ll miss you.

Love always

Jillian

Jennifer
8 years ago

Grandpa,

Thankyou for all of the wonderful memories you have given me. From the stories to the times we shared together. I especially cherish the trips to the base to see the ships and the jets. Since I was a child I have always thought of you when I see the “touch and goes”. I know you are right where you want to be, with Garmy. It has been said that you can’t choose your family, and I am blessed to be part of a family with two of the finest people anyone could know.

Lord Bless,

Love Jen

Kathy Woolf Snyder
8 years ago

I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I know he will be greatly missed. Please know that my heart is with you even if I can’t be to tell you in person. I did not have the great pleasure in knowing your parents as well as I would have liked but I have had the wonderful pleasure in knowing Russ and Barbara, Steven, Ray, Billy and Meg. My love to all.

Jack & Lyn Porter
8 years ago

Mr Cali was an unforgetable man!! He loved to call me Pallie and I will never forget the first time we met… Raymond will remember too! We since grew a great deal of respect for each other, shared Navy stories and many laughs!! Mr Cali, you will be missed by us.

Ralph and Wanda Hurlburt
8 years ago

Mr. Cali was a great person to have known. I especially loved hearing him talk about the love of his life, Vinny. It is so rare to hear couples talk so openly about the one they loved but I believe he would have loved to have shared it with the world. They were a very special couple and I’m sure every time I think of each of them a smile will come on my face.

My prayers and thoughts are with each of his children and their families. God bless them and give them the strenght to get through this terrible loss in their lives.

I love you all,

Wanda

Michael A. Miller
8 years ago

My Dad was a shipmate on Sirago, Robert “Enoch” Miller, who passed in 1995. I also went to high school with some of you Kempsville ’72. My sincere condolences on your loss…a loss to all of us who must keep the memories of these gallant submarine veterans alive. It is because of their sacrifice and dedication that we can continue to live in freedom. We owe them all a debt of gratitude. “Fair winds and following seas.” Sailor, rest your oar…well done.

Eddie Neser
8 years ago

My most sincere condolences to the entire Cali family. I remember a fasinating man with a very large family full of fun and excitement. My Dad shared many military stories with ‘Russ’ and I remember as a youth that when they were together the room was always full of laughter. There are probably many who knew Mr.Cali better than I but the expanse of years since we last met does not diminish or fade my many fond memories and utmost respect for a man that lived his life very well.

Susan Woolf Thesier
8 years ago

Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. Susan Woolf Thesier & Linda Hudson VanAuken Ruegsegger

Ellen CaliFiore
8 years ago

To My Dear Cousins and Family,

Andy and I would like to send our heartfelt sympathy to you during this difficult time. I am so thankful to have spent time with him during his last visit to Kearny. Whenever Uncle Russ came to visit I loved to hear him tell us stories of the good times years ago. One thing about our Dad’s is that they both were true gentlemen with hearts of gold and could sure tell a good story and make us laugh. I’ll always cherish the “Yes Sir, Coming Sir” . We deeply regret that we cannot make the service but please know that our prayers and love are with you always. Love, Ellen & Andy

Gary Cali
8 years ago

To my family in Virginia please accept my deepest condolences. I loved and admired uncle Russ very much. It was always so interesting to hear him tell a story, or to reflect back on time. Everything was so precise and never a date or detail left out. Like my dad in so many ways it was always great to see him. To be in their presence was always special. Although soft spoken and extreamly polite, you could always sence their strenth and control. They reminded me of twins and when I lost my dad it was somewhat comforting to know uncle Russ was still here. Well the good thing is we all have that “CALI” in us to pass on for ever! Love you all like brothers and sisters.

Deepest Sympithy

Gary Cali

Jonathan Ball
8 years ago

To the Cali Family,

I would like to send my deepest sympathy to the whole family. I have only been in the family for four years, and you have made me feel like family since day one. To Grampa, you were one hell of a man and I hope some day that I can be half the man that you were. You over came many things in your life and the whole time kept your head held high. Four years seems like a long time to know someone, but for me it wasn’t long enough to know a man like you. I just ask you to do me two favors, One is to find my grandma Polly and give her a big hug for me and tell her that I love her very much, and tell my little short grandma Vinny that I love her and give her a big hug also.

Gandpa it was an honor to know you!

Tara Ball
8 years ago

To the Cali family,

My heart goes out to all of you. May he always be in your thoughts and prayers, he will never be forgottten or what he has done in his lifetime. I hope and pray that Vinnie and Russ are together again just as they were for over sixty years. This was his final wish, and Grandpa you got it!!!!

Love always,

Tara

Bob Filler
8 years ago

To the family of the most vivacious man I have ever met, I share my deepest condolences. I knew him for but a mere moment in time and yet my life was touched for ever by him. His jokes and ìSea Storiesî will forever be among the most cherished moments of the rest of my life. The many discussions of politics were always intellectually stimulating and made me realize that he was full of wisdom and of life. Above all else I really just enjoyed being around the man that successfully navigated his way not only through his career, ìUncle Samís Canoe Clubî, but he did that while still managing to raise 8 other of the best people I know. ATTENTION TO ORDERS: To all who read this Citation know that LCDR T R Cali has fulfilled his commitment to the Navy, the World and most importantly his family with the greatest of distinction and honor. His tireless efforts led to the world being a better place. It is with the greatest of pleasure that I bid you Farewell and Following Seas through eternity.