Stephen Laurant L’Italien

December 17, 1954 - September 21, 2012

12/17/1954 - 09/21/2012

Stephen Litalien passed away peacefully in the late afternoon, Friday, September 21, 2012. The weather was beautiful and the world was at play, just how he liked. For those of you who hadn’t met Stephen, he had Cerebral Palsy and was intellectually challenged though many of us would argue that point! and could only speak two words, “yes” and “no”, though he communicated volumes. He had a true love of life and brought great joy to those who were fortunate to cross his path. Folks could not help but join his laughter as his was a wonderful, infectious belly laugh from deep in his soul.He especially loved adventure and through the efforts of his caregivers at West Neck ICF, the Rec center and SkillQuest he was never bored. Stephen was creative and spent many happy hours at the Contemporary Art Center in Virginia Beach painting, throwing pottery and experimenting with texture. Everyone knew Stephen was a “ladies’ man”, but it was never more evident than during his last day when at least 25 women came to visit him. Their introduction to the family was “You know I really am his number one.” In our book, they all were his number one. Finally, Stephen was a true champion of life because he took the hand he was dealt and turned it in to a full house. Stephen touched every life with which he was a part. The love that was in his room when he passed was almost tangible. He passed peacefully, without pain and surrounded by loved ones. Stephen was born on December 17, 1954 to Joseph and Mary Litalien. He is survived by both parents, a brother, John Cathy and sister, Betty Bullock Bob, nephews David and Adam Kara Bullock, nieces Katie Bullock, Megan Roberts Jeremy and Alyssa Litalien. Grand-nephews Henry and Dylan, and grand-niece, Lillian. The family wishes to thank the many, many people in Stephen’s life that cared for him and just plain loved up on him. Laura and her staff at West Neck ICF, Becky for all the wonderful “dates” and Broadway music; Jane Sinnott, his tireless and fearless advocate; Tameka Osbourne for your big heart; all the folks at SkillQuest. A mass celebrating Stephen’s life will be held Saturday, September 28th, 10:00 a.m., at Church of the Ascension on Princess Anne Rd., Virginia Beach, VA. Interment to follow. In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made to United Cerebral Palsy, ARC or the American Cancer Society.

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Carol Clemons
7 years ago

Dear Mary and Family

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. He sounded like quite a character. You were a wonderful and devoted mother.He is wrapped in the arms of our savior now.

God Bless

Tom and Kathryn Mcandrews
7 years ago

Dearest Mary and Family:

Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Stephen will surely be missed by all of you–he seemed to be a wonderful man and enjoyed life despite his handicapes. He is probably giving out hugs in heaven. Take care and God bless all of you. Love,

Robin Hurdle
7 years ago

I envy the angels in Heaven because I know they are getting the BEST and TIGHETEST hugs. Yeah!

Lora Schwarz
7 years ago

Mary and family,

Thank you for allowing us to be a part of Stephen’s life. He certainly could brighten our day with a smile and a hug. I will remember his smile and laughter.

Diane Previtire
7 years ago

Mary and Family, I am so sorry for you loss. I feel fortunate to have met Stephen and see his truly, happy spirit.

Diane, Tom, and Gabby Previtire

Greg & Jan Franceski
7 years ago


We are very sorry for your great loss. Please take comfort in knowing he is resting at peace with our Lord.

Charles Belcher
7 years ago

Mary, I am expressing my sympathy to you and your family for the passing of your son, Stephen.

I never met him but his obituary in the newspaper moved me and I wish I could have known him as he was a wonderful person, I am so sure of that.

In case you do not remember me, we used to work at LANTDIV, N-26. I was in the mailroom.

Charlie Belcher

Maria Oakes
7 years ago

Mary, I was very sorry to read your son’s obituary and want you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Karen Waller
7 years ago

Mary, Stephen and you helped make the community at Westneck ICF a wonderful one. Jesse and I have cherished knowing you and your Stephen, who was always full of heart shining love and laughter. We’ll continue to feel his presence there, and in the community of angels that surround us all. Blessings, love and light, from Jesse and her family.

Sonny Harrison
7 years ago

Mary: My condolence on the loss of your son Stephen. For all of the years I have known you,you have always been there for him to make his life as comfortable and happy as possible. God Bless You.

Tonya Goldsmith-Rucker
7 years ago

The memories of laughter and good times will forever be cherished.

Kimberly Davis
7 years ago

To The L’Italien family, sorry for your loss. Take joy in knowing that Stephen is resting peacefully. Blessings to you all,

Ray and Kim Barnhill
7 years ago

We wanted to say we are sorry for your loss but know that you will hold dear all the good memories you shared with Stephen. May your faith comfort you and your family during these coming days.

Ray and Kim