“Coach will be very much missed but all the memories and lives touched by his smile and kindness will carry on” I was so sad to hear of his passing and I will always remember his gentleness and funny expressions topped off with his serious side when he was a coach. Debbie Manning, RN Kempsville Class of 1978
Although I only knew Ray for a brief few years, I always admired his love of life.
ARTHUR AND I WERE SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT RAYS PASSING. OUR HEARTS ARE WITH YOU!
I send my condolonces to you as a family as I know you will miss Coach dearly. I had the fortune of playing for Coach at Bethel and not only learned more baseball in those 2 years than most people forget in a lifetime, I enjoyed the game when playing for him. He also taught us how to be men and for that I am will always remember him.
Dear Barlow Family,
I am so sorry to hear of Rayís death. I always knew that some time, some place you would run into Ray and enjoy talking about life and good times. You never left him that you were not laughing and smiling from ear to ear. I thank the Good Lord for his friendship over the last forty years. He was a good man, excellent teacher, and a great coach.
I will always remember the early years at Kempsville High School; the football and baseball games, the teacher gatherings, Saturday NCS TV games especially the ones against Clemson, and the long bus rides with students to the state baseball championship games in Lynchburg.
Any time I traveled 460 and passed through Crew, I would always think of Ray and tell whoever was in the car with me stories about this great guy named Ray. I will continue to do so for the rest of my life.
I offer my sincere condolences to the entire Barlow Family, which includes anyone who ever had the fortunate opportunity to meet him.
Dear Barlow Family:
I feel very fortunate to have known Ray and to have worked with him at Kempsville High School. He was coaching, and I was a guidance counselor at the time. He was always an inspiration to watch as he interacted with the students and the faculty. He had such an easy, natural way with both. He was extremely respected by all. I felt fortunate to be able to count him as one of my friends.
My wife and I had seen him many times in recent years as we all were exercising at Explorehealth. He was an inspiration as he was always so upbeat and positive.
My thoughts and prayers will be with you.
Dear Mrs. Barlow,
Please know that my family shares in your sorrow for the loss of Coach Barlow. We pray that God will bless you and comfort you through the love of your many friends and the wonderful memories you have of such a fine man.
We have great memories of Coach during our high school years, but we will remember most fondly the many years after high school that Coach would see us somewhere, still remember us and always make us feel special. That is the quality of a great teacher, coach and friend. We rejoice in knowing that we will see Coach again!
With my deepest sympathy,
Mary Domme McGovern KHS 1972
Dear Tiny and all the Barlow family,
I grew up in Crewe and have known Ray since the first grade. I always considered him a great friend. He was full of mischief and took delight in bombarding us with snowballs as we walked to school and “ducking” us at the lake in the summers. I always admired him through the years. He was so smart, warm, and friendly, and he was blessed with exceptional athletic ability…excelling in baseball, football, and basketball. All of our class members looked forward to his attending our class reunions, and we missed him at the one he was not able to attend in 2006. Ray will live on in our hearts and memories. We were blessed by his presence. You and your family will remain in our thoughts and prayers.
Dear Tiny and Chad,
It is with a heavy heart that I write to tell you how sad I am that Ray has passed but it is with a light heart that we know he is in a wonderful place and we will meet with him again. He was a wonderful and funny cousin who always had a smile when he saw you. He will be missed by all who knew and loved him. May you find comfort that he is not suffering.
Love, Pat and Family
We are so very sorry to hear about Ray. You both are in our thoughts and prayers.
Haven’t seen Ray or Tiny in many years and was certainly saddened to hear of his illness and passing. Still laugh thinking about the trips to NSCU football games with he and Sunny so I could see my “beau” at the time. Will always remember Ray’s great sense of humor and many contributions to his students and players.
I am truly saddened to hear of the passing of Coach Barlow. Coach was a true inspiration in my life as a teenager whose father had passed away at a young age. As a member of Kempsville’s first graduating class in 1970 and having played on the baseball team all four years I was there at the beginning of his teaching/coaching career at Kempsville. I only knew him as “coach” and even as a young inexperienced coach we enjoyed and were motivated by his comical yet firm demeanor towards us. I think players feed off how a coach reacts to certain situations. His calmness and his lightheartedness in the midst of stressful moments in a big game were truly inspiring! His talk to us before the Eastern Region final against Granby in 1970 I remember to this day. Granby had beaten us during the regular season and they were pitching their ace. It didn’t matter. We beat them and I owe our success and his even greater future successes to his ability to motivate and inspire his players to “be the best they can be” in a calm and confident manner.
I firmly believe that what I learned from his coaching has helped me conduct myself in a similar manner. Coach, you played a major role in the development of my young life and I thank you for that!
I had the privilege of playing on Coach Barlow’s Kempsville Baseball teams. We had great success and a winning tradition that came to be expected. The success was the result not only of Coach Barlow’s knowledge of the game, but the way he treated his players and the humor he brought to the game. Both me and my parents enjoyed his company during that time. Coach Barlow remained good friends with his players after high school when we became adult friends. I know he had an impact on many young lives. May God Bless.
Many happy memories while at KHS because of “Coach”. Blessings to his family and friends. Lee Berkhimer Hunter, KHS ’73
My heart goes out to Chad & Tiny; “Coach” Barlow was a great inspiration and friend to everyone in the Class of 70 at Kempsville High School. He will truly be missed.
MY MOM, JUST CALLED ME FROM VA. BEACH, TO TELL ME MR. BARLOW PASSED AWAY. I’M VERY SAD, I’M A 1970 GRAD. OF KEMPSVILLE HIGH SCHOOL, STARTED THERE AT THE SAME TIME MR. BARLOW DID AND REMEMBER THOSE BASEBALL DAYS WITH HAPPY HAPPY MEMORYS. IN FACT MY DADS FRIEND, JOHNNY GREEN, WAS A UMPHIRE IN THOSES DAYS. ME AND MY 2 SISTERS HAD A CRUSH ON MR. BARLOW, HEHE, AS MANY GIRLS DID BACK THEN, IT MAKES ME SMILE. I SAW MR. BARLOW IN THE LAB BACK IN APRIL GETTING HIS BLOOD TAKEN AS I WAS TO, AND TOLD HIM WHO I WAS AND HE WAS VERY HAPPY I SAID SOMETHING TO HIM AS HE KNEW MY DAD TO, HE WAS A PLUMBER FOR THE SCHOOLS BACK THEN. I JUST WANTED TO TELL U HOW MUCH HE MEANT TO US ALL HE HAS LEFT BEHIND ALOT OF WONDERFUL MEMORYS AND I’M SURE HE IS IN HEAVEN WITH JOHNNY GREEN PLAYING BASEBALL AGAIN. GOD BLESS, NANCY:
My thoughts and prayers are with the Barlow family. Coach was my 10th grade teacher at Kempsville and I have fond memories of those great times. God bless you during this time. Class of 79.
Ray was a great coaching companion and loyal friend.
Ray was a terrific baseball coach and person. He led me in so many ways. My desire to coach baseball was inspired by Ray and many of the techniques and strategies I incorporated into my coaching came directly from him. More than anything else Ray was a motivator of young men and the way he touched so many young men will have ripple effects for many years to come.
My condolences to Tiny, Chad, and the many other family members. May the memory of Ray carry on forever.
The Barlow Famliy, Please accept my sincere condolences. Coach was such a presence to all who attended KHS in the 70’s, especially the baseball players. What times we had! I am happy to have known a man who had such a profound influence on so many. He will be missed.
The family of Ken Barto would like to express our sincere simpathy to the family and friends of RAy. HE will be missed greatly by many of the people that he touched.
Tiny and Chad,
I was proud to be Ray’s friend. He was a warm and caring man, and it was always a pleasure to be in his company. Since we both loved a good joke, we were always trying to “get one up” on each other by telling a joke that the other hadn’t heard. He enjoyed his friends, and I will never forget the time he invited us to stay at the cabin on the lake when we attended the Jimmy Buffett concert in Raleigh. I think the party at the lake topped the concert! I also think that Ray was surprised to meet someone who knew where Crewe actually was; and especially, that we both knew “Slick.”
My sincere condolences in your loss of this great guy. I’ll certainly miss him…
Tiny and family,
I am so sorry to hear from Rich Goodboy that my good friend and colleague when I taught at Tallwood Ray has passed away. I am so very sorry to know this has happened. There was rarely a time when we spoke that Ray would not be able to bring his family into the conversation. It was obvious how strongly he felt for and loved his family. Ray had an amazing way to make everyone feel good when they were around him because of the humor he so easily added to the conversations. The picture used with the obituary truly shows the smile he always showed everyone who had the pleasure of meeting him. The world will truly be a different place with Ray gone.
Tiny- So Sorry to hear about Ray. He was a great mentor and inspiration to me and many others on and off the field. He was “one of a kind’ and will be truly missed. I know the memories I have of him, and all of those that knew him ,will sustain us during this sad time. My prayers are with you and all of your families. Herb
My heartfelt sympathy to you, Chad and the Barlow family on your loss. I will always remember Ray’s warm smile and infectious laugh. May God bless you and keep you in his care.
Tiny, Family, and Friends,
I along with many others will miss Ray’s smile, humor, and giving nature. Coming from Victoria, it was fun to know someone who knew where the heck it is. I enjoyed knowing him since his Kempsville High School days when his baseball team and my girls soccer team rode the same bus to athletic events. We reconnected at Tallwood and I’m better for having known him.
Thinking of you
Tiny, I was at Ray’s funeral today and I saw you from the distance, but I had to leave before it was over. I always liked Ray so much, and I have great memories of spending time with both of you at the lake. Kollette also wanted me to make sure to pass along her condolences. She thought a lot of Ray also. I really loved hearing those stories today, and I know Ray loved it too. Hang in there. Time is really the best medicine. Love, Pat
Beverly and I want to offer our condolences to you and your family on the loss of Ray. Mom thought the world of him and he always came over to visit when you’ll were at the lake. He was a wonderful person and will be greatly missed.
Love and prayers,
Lew & Beverly Strickland
To a Great Coach and even better friend. Coach I will miss you.
To the Barlow family,
Coach was with my brother to the end. He always had a kind word for Mark and a word of encouragement for my family. He will be missed but what a heck of team they will have in Heaven.
God Bless your family.
To The Barlow Family,
My deepest sympathy goes out to you. Coach Barlow was a mentor, guide and friend to my late cousin, Steve Dunstan; K’Ville class of ’70. I attended countless school functions with cousin Steve where Coach B would always greet me and share a kind word even though I attended Maury H.S. at the time. They just don’t make guys like Coach Barlow anymore. God bless him!
To the Barlow Family,
We offer our sincere condolences.We were lucky to have seen Coach Barlow a few times over the past year. When he told us of his illnes he was very upbeat and positive, as always. We will forever remember his smile and quick wit. The Wade Twins Class of 1972
To the Barlow family, may the memories of “Coach Barlow” and the heartfelt gratitude from all the lives he touched, including; hundred of parents, students, athletes, academicians and friends sustain you in this period of loss and grief. He touched so many lives and for this we all are forever grateful. Mary Blessing Gilkey KHS class of 76
To the Family and Friends of Ray Barlow:
I, like Jean Lawson Evans, go back a long way with Ray! We became friends in about 1951 in Mrs. Farrisí 2nd grade class in Crewe and that friendship continued in a very strong way all the way through grade school, Crewe High School, and on to NC State and the many years that have followed.
My respect for Ray began in those early years and has continued ever since. Ray Barlow was an ìextra ordinaryì person and athlete….andÖ.I believe all who knew Ray will agree with me.
There were so many events that helped define Ray, that to pick even a few would be most difficult. Itís probably easiest to say that Ray was the most gifted athlete that I ever knew. He ìlived and diedì from one athletic season to another. Ray excelled at every sport that Crewe High School had to offer. If Coach Golubic had decided to field a CHS Rugby or Water Polo Team, there is no doubt in my mind that Ray Barlow would have been a contributing member.Öand would have pulled us all along with him !
My time with Ray at NC State was memorable! We visited NCS together, we decided on NCS together, we traveled to NCS together and then we were there! What an opportunity!! Two young guys from one of the smallest high schools in Southside Virginia headed to play football with NCS and Roman Gabriel…WOW!! What a challenge. And Ray not only accepted the challenge but took it to the next level.
There are most likely many stories that will come out in due time but I can remember this one:
It was 1964 and NCS was playing Alabama. We had upset Clemson, UNC and Maryland to win a 2nd consecutive ACC Championship. But the Ray Barlow
#83 story was the game that year with Alabama. Joe Namath was the Alabama QB. Late in the 1st half he rolled left on a QB keep. Ray, our cornerback, was not fooled and rolled with him. The next thing Joe knew he was headed to the sideline with his first ìbumî knee.
I will miss my good friend Ray…. as will his many many other friends and family.
To those friends and family, I offer my most sincere sympathy. But keep in mind how Ray most likely would have reactedÖ.probably something likeÖ.îThatís Life. Letís Move On!!î
To My Friend, Ray Warner Barlow..I Bid a Fond Farewell.
We were students at Kempsville 68-72 when Coach Barlow took his baseball team to the State Championship. 21 years later, he spotted us in the Tallwood bleachers cheering our son Chris on his Varsity squad. Coach took one look at me and called me by name…after all those years and thousands of students under his guidance. He said, pointing to Chris, “Is he YOURS?”…and walked away, shaking his head. We were on the bleachers for four years, never missing a game, watching Coach teach the strategies of baseball and life on and off the field. And on occasion, he’d join us in the bleachers when “Mr.Blue” disagreed with his opinion! Thanks for being a great teacher, mentor, coach and friend and most of all for helping us to raise two great young men. You made a difference and we sincerely appreciate it.
Mike and Dayna Connor Miller – KHS 72
Chris Miller – Tallwood 97
Nathan Miller – Tallwood 00
We will always remember our good times together in Crewe. May you rest in peace.
With Great RESPECT and admiration for a wonderful inspiration to whoever had the privilage of knowing Mr. B, I send my condolences. He has always been in my heart and mind ever since I had him for Biology. He will be greatly missed by all.
Kathy Woolf Snyder
Wow!! Where can I begin with all the elementary, high school, college and beyond memories about my dear friend, Ray. He always had a great, warm smile that told more about him than what most people could really see. He had a wonderful mischievous side to him that was disguised by that friendly smile. He and I often laughed together because I would remark “…and what else is going on?” Ray would start laughing and the conversations would begin. He was never speechless and his kidding personality was always in gear. All the sports events were so special because of his talents along with so many of his friends. I never got the opportunity to see him coach in his professional life, but there is no question that he provided expertise, tough practices, a positive attitude and a desire to be challenged on the fields, courts and growth in personal goals. We were always able to just pick up a conversation and cover time about so many people and so many subjects. May your memories give you strength to keep Ray in your heart…Ray is smiling at all of his family, friends and acquaintances and he can never leave our thoughts; his imprint is profoundly present. My sincerest condolences to his family…