Neil Thomas Guay

June 8, 2008

06/08/2008

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Service
Thursday June 12, 2008
11:00 am
Star of the Sea Catholic Church
1308 Arctic Circle
Virginia Beach, VA
Directions
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Fr. Gerry Gudmalin officiating. The family will receive friends one hour prior to the service.

Service
Star of the Sea Catholic Church
1308 Arctic Circle
Virginia Beach, VA
Directions
Additional Information:

Fr. Gerry Gudmalin officiating. The family will receive friends one hour prior to the service.

Neil Thomas Guay

Chesapeake – Neil Thomas Guay, 38, passed away on June 8, 2008. He was born in Plattsburgh, NY, grew up in Rouses Point, NY, and graduated in 1988 from Northeastern Clinton Central School in Champlain, NY. He served four years in the US Marines Corps and was honorably discharged in 1992. Until 2002, he served as Deputy Sheriff, promoted to Sergeant Detective in Halifax County, NC. Since 2002, he served as a US Federal Air Marshall, most recently as Assistant Federal Security Director in Norfolk, VA.

He is survived by two daughters, Jewely Guay and Haley Guay, and a son, Robert Guay of Roanoke Rapids, NC; his parents, Robert and Virginia Guay of Rouses Point, NY; two brothers, Terrence Guay and his wife Pattie, son, and daughter of State College, PA, and Wayne Guay and his wife Eileen Potash of Philadelphia, PA. He was married to Tonya Coggins from 1991 to 2005.

The family will receive friends Thursday morning, June 12th, from 10 a.m. to 11a.m., immediately followed by a Funeral Mass at Star of the Sea Catholic Church, located at Pacific and 14th St. in Virginia Beach. A Mass of Christian burial will be held at St. Patrick’s Church in Rouses Point, NY on Saturday morning, June 14th. Altmeyer Funeral Home, Maestas Chapel, is handling the arrangements. Condolences may be offered to the family at altmeyer.com.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made in Neil’s name to The Asthma and Allergy Foundation of America www.aafa.org.

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Bret Bruchok
8 years ago

Although the FBI does not assign agents as partners, a practice common to may law enforcement agencies, Neil was definitely my partner. I will always remember the many interviews, investigations, and arrests that we participated in together. More than that, I will remember fondly our friendship and treasure the bond that we had. Neil was every bit of a brother to me and is the most reliable person I have known. He could find humor in the most stressful of situations, and his confidence never wavered. He loved his children, his job, and his country. I will miss him dearly.

Link Nixon
8 years ago

Always sad to loose a friend. My thoughts are with Jewely, Haley & Robert Guay.

Anonymous
8 years ago

Bobby & Gin..How do we express our sadness for the loss of Neil…Our hearts, thoughts and prayers are with you both. Neil, the cute blonde haired, blue eyed light-hearted life of the party or gathering will be thought of with such fondness and always with a smile.

Virginia…the urge to call and just let you know that our thoughts are with you and Bobby and the boys is at times over-whelming, but what to say to ease your pain at this time can’t be found. God bless both of you. Love ya’ both. Sue & Sonny

Haley Guay
8 years ago

Daddy,

I can’t believe it has been three years now. There’s not much to say here, because the rest is in my heart. For those who are thinking of him at this time, may God comfort you, and may you find peace. We love you, Neil Thomas Guay.

Love,

Your Haley Girl

Kristin Benway
8 years ago

Dear Mr. and Mrs. Guay,

I was deeply shocked and saddened when I learned today of Neil’s untimely death in June. Neil and I met over 20 years ago working at Camp Silver Towers in Vermont. We shared a special relationship and would dare to say for both of us it was our first love. We were teenagers and when Neil and I talked most recently 2005 I still remember us laughing about what crazy teenagers do, drive their parents crazy with late night phone calls and endless hours of PinkFloyd music! I also remember us commenting about how the two of you, “Ginny and Bob” as he would say…rode in the truck…with Ginny in the middle seat! Neil always wanted to find and share the same love that he had seen demonstrated at home; I hope that he was able to do so as he was a very special man with a huge heart!

He possessed an intense love for his family and took great pride in his work. His impact in life will influence far more people that you might ever know.

Again, my deepest sympathy to you and to your family, Neil was a real gem. I am so deeply saddened by this shocking news!

In time, I hope you can find some comfort and peace.

With deepest regrets,

Kristin Benway

Gail Reid
8 years ago

Dear Mr. and Mrs. Guay,

I would just like to tell you what a delight it has been to know Neil these past few years. I worked with him and what a character he could be. He always had a ready smile, was extremely considerate, and fun-loving. You could tell how much he loved his family. My fondest memories of him will always be the big bear hugs on a bad day. You raised a fine man, one to be very proud of. I pray that you will be blessed in your memories of him and that your grief will be turned to joy when you think of him with our Savior. God bless each of you and your family members and I will continue to pray that you find solace.

Felicia R. Bryant
8 years ago

During the Jamestown 400th Anniversary, Neil drove me around on a golf cart, traveling about 50 miles per hour from vendor to vendor, taking pictures for the FBI Norfolk Division newsletter. I never laughed so much in my life, as other law enforcement officials were astonished at the speed Neil was driving the cart. Several times I thought the cart would turn over, but Neil had things under control as he always did while performing his duties with the FBI. I remember saying to Neil, “slow down man, WE ARE REPRESENTING THE FBI,” and Neil drove even faster. I’m going to miss my friend, but I’ll always have lasting memories. Neil always talked about his children, he was such a proud father. To the Guay children, please know that you were loved by your father, he was very proud of each of you and he leaves an awesome legacy to follow.

Chad Sutton
8 years ago

Extending deep and heartfelt sympathy to you and your family, may God give you strength to bear this loss and bring you comfort.

La Nard Bradley
8 years ago

God loves and so do I!

La Nard Bradley/WFO

A Friend
8 years ago

Happy 40th Birthday.

Your Friend
8 years ago

Happy Belated Birthday!..Thinking of you as always..you will never be forgotten…

Friend
8 years ago

Happy Birthday.

Rick Loyd
8 years ago

I am Neil’s counterpart with TSA in Nashville, TN. Neil and I only met on the phone a few times but I could tell he was a great guy and a dedicated public servant. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.

Donald Lynn
8 years ago

I am so sorry about Neil. I got to know him when he was in the Marines, before he married. He had rode with me on patrol before he started with Halifax Sheriff Office. The very first time he rode with me, we responded to an arm robbery call. He got very excited and I knew then he was hooked on getting into law enforcement. Neil will surely be missed.

Margaret Podesta
8 years ago

I am so sorry to hear of Neil’s untimely death, and I am praying for all of you. You have always been such a special family, and my parents thought very highly of all of you. Your oldest son has always been my dear friend, but I remember your three adorable boys so vividly as young, happy children in Rouses Point. God Bless you all. He is in God’s hands.

Love,

Margaret Podesta McDonald & family

Angela Ives
8 years ago

I became friends with Neil through working at the Norfolk Airport. He would come into my office just to say hello. He spoke highly about his children and he loved doing his job. No words can express how sorry I am to see him go. I will miss you, Neil.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Jewely
8 years ago

I do remember you Lillian! I’m glad that all of you guys have these wonderful memories of my father! If anyone has any stories to tell, or anything interesting you think we would want to know feel free to e-mail me. jlguayxoxo@yahoo.com

Mark Denhardt
8 years ago

I had the great honor to become friends with Neil shortly after I came to the Federal Air Marshal Service. I will truly miss his dedication, sense of humor, and friendship.

My thoughts and prayers are with his family, and know that he made a difference.

Mark Denhardt, FAM/INJTTF

anonymous
8 years ago

I miss You so much, and wish you were here!

Meco Owens
8 years ago

I send my condolences to the family.

Anonymous
8 years ago

I think of you often and ‘wish you were here.’

Love you later…

Bruce Boyden
8 years ago

I was deeply saddened to hear the terrible news about Neil. I haven’t seen him since high school, but we used to hang out together a lot back in Rouses Point. I remember him as always on the lookout for ways to make people laugh âÄì and he was really good at it, one of the best.

Just one example of many: our 7th grade math teacher in teaching exponents mentioned that anything to the zero power is 1. “Even Christmas tree to the zero power is 1.” From then on Neil tried to work Christmas trees into all of his answers in class, to the teacher’s exasperation. He will be missed.

Tricia Hicks
8 years ago

I went to high school with Neil and his brothers. I will always remember the lunches spent in Mr. Zurlo’s room laughing at Neil’s shenanigans. He was a nice guy, with a great sense of humor and smile. My deepest condolences to NeilâÄôs family.

Tamara Parlett
8 years ago

I will miss your wit and your charm, but most of all I’ll miss the way you made me laugh each and every time I saw you. Rest well my friend.

Sherry Allen
8 years ago

I work for the FBI and met Neil when I worked with him at the Jamestown 400th. I have a 6 year old son, and Neil talked alot about his children. He loved them very much. My thoughts and prayers are with the family during this difficult time.

Eddie Buffaloe
8 years ago

I worked with Neil at the Halifax County Sheriff’s Office for a number of years and he was a great law enforcement officer and friend. He will be greatly missed by all who knew him. My thoughts, prayers and condolences go out to the Guay family.

Major Mike Casey
8 years ago

I worked with Neil at The Halifax County Sheriff’s Office until he left to go to the Air Marshals. He was a good friend and great Law Enforcement Officer. I remember a lot of times with Neil good, bad and dangerous I could always count on him to be there with me. I will never forget you BUDDY.

James D. Warren
8 years ago

I worked with Neil while he was employed with the Halifax County Sheriff’s Office and we continued to communicate regularly after he left. He enjoyed talking about his family, his many friends and experiences in the law enforcement community. He was a dedicated law enforcement officer, a patriot and a true friend. He always went beyond the call of duty. Neil I will miss you.

My prayers and concerns are with his family.

Jewely
8 years ago

It’s so hard to believe that you’ve been gone for a year now…everyone misses you more than you could ever imagine…we think of you everyday and all love you and wish you were here…I miss you so much daddy

Trudy Lynn
8 years ago

Jewley, Haley and Robert

I am so sorry for your loss.

It’s difficult at such a time

To know what to say

But may God be with you always

To help you through each and every day.

You are in my thoughts and I Love You

Bob, Ginny, Terrace and Wayne

In the quiet moments when the hurt is to hard to bear

May love become your shelter

May the beauty of precious memories be your comfort

As you are held in gentle thought and prayer.

I am so sorry for the loss of your son and brother.

Mary
8 years ago

Mr & Mrs Guay,

I want to tell how what a pleasure it was to spend time with Neil, the time that I had with him was short but the memories will always be with me. Neil was a good person, good father and a friend to all. No matter what the situation he had a way of making people feel better and putting a smile on their face. Neil will be truly missed. I think of your family often and will continue to keep you in my prayers.

Mike & Susan Mayo
8 years ago

Mr and Mrs Guay and Family,

Our Hearts are heavy with sadness for you and your family. Mike and I met Neil when he was assigned to the JTTF in Norfolk. We were fortunate to have been blessed with having such a fierce friend.

Keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.

Mike and Susan Mayo

CPD

Chesapeake, VA

Haley Bombardier
8 years ago

Mr. and Mrs. Guay, I am still in disbelief. Words cannot fully express how sorry I am. I have many happy memories of NeilâÄ_..he had a great sense of humor and was a lot of fun to be around.

Fortunately, Neil and I were able to catch up when we were both âÄúback homeâÄù for Christmas a couple of years ago. I am truly glad that we were able to spend some time together again!

Charlie Goller
8 years ago

My deepest condolences for your loss.

I remember Neil vaguely, as he was a few years older than I. One memory stands out however as a testamant to his character and generosity.

We were engaged in an intense game of some sort involving a blend of tennis and baseball.

The game was played in Bryan Bechards lawn. This was when I was very small, maybe 10 or 11. Seeing that I was having difficulty hitting the ball with the tennis raquet, Neil helped me to settle down and gave me the confidence to hit one across the street. I’ll not forget his kindness that day, and his contagious spirit.

Rachael Belrose Burch
8 years ago

My family sends our sincerest condolences to you, Uncle Bobby, Aunt Ginny, Terrence, Wayne, Jewely, Haley, and Robert. I truly believe Nanna Lulu and my Poppa are up there welcoming Neil. You are all in my prayers for God to give you peace and comfort.

Rachael, Michael, Elijah, Charlotte, and Baby Lu.

Mark Tabor
8 years ago

My sympathies to the family.

Mark Tabor âÄì AFSD-Law Enforcement

Office of Law Enforcement/FAM Service

Joe Bornschein
8 years ago

My thoughts and prayers are with you. Neil was a true american hero that will be missed, but his service will not be forgotten. His committment to family and country was evident in everything he did. Neil embodied the meaning of a real Marine – Semper Fidelis.

Joe Long
8 years ago

My thoughts and prayers are with you. I met Neil in March in Baton Rouge and found him to be one of the most friendly outgoing Law Enforcement Proffessional I have ever met. He will be missed.

Joe Long Chicago Police Dept.

Joan R Anderson
8 years ago

My thoughts and prayers or with you during this time of sorrow.

SEan Flory
8 years ago

My wife Crystal and I were seated with Neil and Mary on our honey moon. Neil was one of the funniest and nicest people we had ever met. Crystal and I have spent the past two and a half years retelling stories of Neil and how much he made us all laugh. He will be missed greatly.

robert cruce
8 years ago

Neil and I roomed together for a while at Camp LeJeune NC. He was a fine Marine. I have some photos of him I can scan and share.

Bill Wheeler
8 years ago

Neil and I worked together for a number of years at the Sheriff’s Office. He was the type of person that would make you laugh even in the darkest of moments. I know he will be surely missed. My thoughts and prayers are with the family.

Joe DeStefano
8 years ago

Neil had also served as an adjunct instructor for the Basic Law Enforcement Training Program at College of The Albemarle since 2006. As a law enforcement instructor, he passed his knowledge and professionalism to the recruits he trained and influenced so a small part of Neil lives on in them.

On behalf of the faculty and staff of College of The Albemarle I would like to extend our sincere condolences to Neil’s family, friends, and law enforcement colleagues.

Mark Macon
8 years ago

Neil was a true friend. Its hard to believe that someone so vibrant could leave so soon. I remember times we spent together investigating cases at H.C.S.D and the cookouts Neil would have back in Roanoke Rapids. Neil truly loved life and I will always remember Neil. To the family, may God continue to give you strength and courage in these times of sorrow.

Roy Ferguson
8 years ago

Neil was always on. That is the simple way to say he was always going, always committed, and always up front. He was a man of his word, he was dependable, and he did not avoid work or problems. It was an honor to work with him. He will be missed.

SGT TR METZLER
8 years ago

NEIL WILL BE MISSED.

John Greeson
8 years ago

Neil will be sorely missed.

Christie Forsht
8 years ago

Neil will be sorely missed. He was just a fun person to be around, always laughing and having a good time. He was a great friend and loved his job as a marine, a deputy and an air marshall. His family will always be remembered in my prayers.

Mary
8 years ago

Neil,

Normally at this time of the morning I would be sending you an email telling you good morning and to have a good day as I was getting ready for work. However, today I am sending this email to tell you that I miss you so much. I wish that I could have just one more day with you to say all the things that I never had the chance to say. I wish that I could go back and give you the answer that you were looking for on New Years Eve….we had so many plans. Now all that I can do is hold on to the memories that I have of you….the good memories….I feel you around me all of the time. I look forward to the day that we can see one another again.

Sue Belrose
8 years ago

Neil, my towheaded little cousin.

You will be sorely missed, but never forgotten.You lit up a room with that smile and your antics. My ring bearer at my wedding,getting all the attention, when you caught my garter!You babysat my kids, taught them to make bubbles with their gum, how to whistle through long blades of grass and they loved you as well. Memories of you keep coming back to me like waves of the ocean hitting the shore. It seems relentless. May you rest in peace knowing you were loved by all for just being you. I send warm hugs to envelope you on your journey through time. We will see each other again.

Love and kisses.

Uncle Bobby, Aunt Virginia, Terrance, Wayne and families,

We are here for you, always.Neil was the baby of your family, but had so very much of all you in him. He loved all of you, so very much. I send my love, my sympathies and hugs during these trying days.

Love,

Susie