Melvin J. Bogetich

October 23, 1921 - December 27, 2007

10/23/1921 - 12/27/2007

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Visitation
Monday December 31, 2007
6:00 pm - 8:00 pm
Bauknecht-Altmeyer Funeral Home-Bellaire
441-37th Street
Bellaire, OH 43906
740-676-1611 | Directions
Additional Information:

6 pm to 8 pm

Visitation
Tuesday January 01, 2008
2:00 pm - 4:00 pm
Bauknecht-Altmeyer Funeral Home-Bellaire
441-37th Street
Bellaire, OH 43906
740-676-1611 | Directions
Additional Information:

6 pm to 8 pm

Cemetery
Wednesday January 02, 2008
Mt. Calvary Cemetery Mausoleum Wheeling
1685 National Road
Wheeling, WV 26003
Directions
Service
Wednesday January 02, 2008
9:30 am
St. John Catholic Church
415-37th Street
Bellaire, OH 43906
740-676-0051 | Directions

Melvin J. Bogetich, 86, of Chesapeake, VA, formerly of Bellaire, OH, died Thursday, December 27, 2007 in Chesapeake, VA., after a courageous battle with cancer.

He was born October 23, 1921 in Bellaire, OH, a son of the late Mary and Peter Bogetich.

Melvin was retired from Ormet Corp. in 1986 after 29 years, was a member of the Wheeling Eagles, American Legion, and St. John Catholic Church, Bellaire and proudly served his country during WWII in the Marine Corps.

In addition to his parents, Melvin was preceded in death by 2 brothers; John Kasko and Richard Bogetich, and 4 sisters; Ellen Hemsley, Ann Jeffers, Goldie Bogetich and Dorothy Kuchinka.

Surviving Melvin is his loving wife of 60 years, Julie Bogetich of Chesapeake. He leaves to cherish his memory and will be sadly missed by four daughters: Lynn Rouse and her husband Ronnie of Crestview FL, Janice Carte and her husband Chip of Chesapeake, Melanie DuFaud and her husband Scott of Colorado Springs, CO, and Michelle Price of Bridgeport, OH, and his brother Leo Bogetich of Bellaire.

He is the proud grandfather of Tonya Barnett, Jamie and Christopher Garner, Brent and Ashley Carte, Cameron, Haleigh and Colton DuFaud and Garrett Price, and his great grandchildren, Jimmy and Taylor Barnett and Savanna and Austin Garner.

He leaves behind many nieces, nephews, friends and neighbors who will miss him, but will share fond memories of their times together.

Friends will be received on Monday from 6-8pm and on Tuesday from 2-4 and 6-8pm at the Bauknecht Altmeyer Funeral Homes and Crematory, 441-37th St.

Funeral Liturgy with Mass will be celebrated on Wednesday at 9:30am in St. John Catholic Church.

Entombment will follow in Mt. Calvary Cemetery Mausoleum, Wheeling, WV.

The Ohio Valley Veterans Memorial Squad will hold full military graveside services.

A vigil service will be conducted on Tuesday at 2:15 in the funeral home.

Memorial contributions may be made to the American Cancer Society or the Alzheimers Association.

Online condolences may be extended to the family at altmeyer.com

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Janice Carte
7 years ago

Daddy,

Happy Easter! Your favorite holiday is here. I hope you liked your flowers. The ceramic angel is so appropriate, because you are our angel in heaven!! Taking Mommy her Easter basket today around 4:00. She is usually awake for her evening meal then. Brent has to work today and Ashley had early plans so we are going to Brent’s restaurant for dinner so we can still spend Easter together. Shell and Garrett are going to Gary’s Moms for Easter dinner. Shell and Gary are getting along so much better. Makes it easier for everyone. Who knows what the future might hold, right Dad? Shell and Garrett are visiting you today. Sure wish I was there!! I told Shell to give you a kiss from me. I just can’t tell you how much I miss, miss miss you!!! I’m trying to come up in May. I will definately visit with you then. Keep watching over us!!! I always feel safer knowing you are there.

Love You Forever

Janny

Jan Carte
7 years ago

Daddy,

Still watching over Mommy. She is in some stage of renal failure, but they are uncertain as to severity, since you and I decided not to put Mommy through any further testng. She sleeps most of the time now, and walking has slowed considerably in the last few months. I know she wants to be with you, Daddy. Please call her home. She needs you as much as you need her. I miss you so much. I still feel lonely without you. As you know, I went to Florida to look after Lynn during her recovery from surgery. She is doing better, but still tired. Continue to be our guardian angel in heaven. We all need you. Shell is doing better. Continue to encourage her.

I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART,

Janny

Janice Carte
7 years ago

Daddy,

I hope you enjoyed your birthday gifts and the floral arrangement. I’m proud to say I made the arrangement myself, and it was beautiful. We know you were watching over everyone, on your birthday, because Shell’s colonoscopy was perfect and Garrett’s team won the Shadyside game, the first time in several years. It was sooo exciting. I’ve never screamed so loud in my entire life. I’ve seen two of his games this year, the other when I came home for Uncle Leo’s funeral,tell Uncle Leo I said Hi, and send my love. While I was home this time, I decorated the graves in all 4 cemeteries. Grandma and Grandpap Bogetich, Aunt Goldie, Uncle Richie, Aunt Ann and Uncle Jeff, Aunt Nellie and Uncle Andy, Grandpap Uchanski, Bobby Andlinger, Grandma Uchanski and our Baby Brother, Uncle Leo, and my GUARDIAN ANGEL DAD. I really felt good taking care of your’s and Mommy’s family. I will do this every fall, when I visit for your birthday. Mom is the same, still walking the halls searching for you. Doesn’t care to visit, so I just go in to make sure she is ok, then leave. I always carry her Fig Newtons, sometimes she’ll take them from me, sometimes I leave them with the nurse. Still haven’t returned to work. Please see what you can do about that. SMILE. Well, that’s about all the GOOD news I have to share, the rest you already know , so please pray with me for those who are suffering. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU with all my heart. Keep looking after us all. We need you up there.

All My Love,

Janny

Janice Carte
7 years ago

Daddy,

I knew I could count on you to speed things along. I interviewed this morning for a fulltime dental position, and the dentist hired me right on the spot!! I’m so excited.I will start this new job on June 7..immediately after I finish the maternity leave postion, I’m currently working. Dr. Dukes talked with me for 2 hrs this morning and we hit it off from the very start. He’s a very nice guy, slow pace office, we see one patient at a time. I will be his ONLY assistant, so we all take our vacations together when the entire office is closed. That is exactly the way Dr. Kramer used to handle vacations. Dr. Dukes closes for a week in July and a week during Christmas and New Years. He is paying me $21.00 per hr. plus a 401 K, so I’m very happy. I will feel useful again and will be able to share the financial responsibilities with Chip, although he has NEVER complained. It takes me 5 min. to get to work and the office is located across the highway where Ollie is buried. I take the expressway to get there and the traffic congestion is opposite going and returning. My hrs. are M,T,Th 8:30-5:00..Wed. 8:30-12:00 and every other Fri.8:30-12:00, but on Fri, we don’t see patients.I was concerned at first, then was relieved to know that I’d STILL be able to see Garretts games this coming FB season.LIFE IS GOOD!! Visited Mommy on Mothers Day, but was not able to wake her. I took a large tray of assorted cookies to her so we could share them with all the residents in her unit. Many of them NEVER have visitors, so sad. They are always excited when they see me coming with cookies. Chip and I called her name, patted her shoulders,patted her hands, just couldn’t get her up. The CNA’s said she had been up VERY late the night before, so that’s why she was sleeping so soundly. Chip and I went to the Greek Festival this evening and had a wonderful time. We remembered and shared with friends your love of the music and how you would sit for hours listening and EVEN got up on stage and danced. We went with Lou and Mary Karangelen, the older Greek couple that you met there before. They include us in all of their gatherings and treat us as if we were family. They are really wonderful people. Shell is healing nicely from her surgery. She and Garrett are coming down,the beginning of June, for a week.Well Daddy, that’s all the news for now…I’ll write you again next month. Keep watching over us, as only OUR GUARDIAN ANGEL DAD can do. I LOVE AND MISS YOU WITH ALL MY HEART.

♥♥♥ JANNY

Janice Carte
7 years ago

Daddy,

I know that you are hearing things now that are making you very sad. PLEASE DON’T LISTEN TO THEM!! You are the best Dad that anyone could ever hope for, and you ALWAYS did what was best for your family. You protected your family and worked harder than any man I know to provide for your wife and children. You even sacrificed your life because of the love you had for Mommy. You are not responsible for the SOCIOPATH in our family. I am doing everything I can to RIGHT THE WRONGS AND CORRECT THE LIES. I’m making every effort to be sure that EVERYONE knows WHAT and WHO she is, and I’ll do everything in my power to prevent her from hurting anyone else. A SOCIOPATH cannot be cured or saved. She is a child of SATAN and she will never see you again. THAT WILL BE HER PUNISHMENT. She is hollow, without a soul, has no conscience, and enjoys hurting people, even those who loved her. She needs to be put away where she can’t hurt anyone anymore. I continue to pray for that to happen. Then, and only then, will the wrongs be right. Please forgive me for my horrible thoughts of today. I had to ask “Our Lady” to forgive me, also, before I could say my Novena’s. You are so loved and respected, and missed by so many people, but you already know that…. you hear them speak of you everyday. Please continue to look after us Daddy, and give me the strength to live my life “IN HONOR OF YOUR MEMORY”. I miss you and love you more each day.

All My Love,

Janny

Jan Carte
7 years ago

Daddy,

Thinking about you alot today. I miss you so much. I miss our rides, our morning breakfast, our Friday shopping trips. Mommy doesn’t care about visits from anyone. I think she just wants to be with you Daddy. I pray every night that she joins you so her suffering will be over. By now you know that the house has sold, Bobby Roth bought your ATV, and your Impala will be bought in Jan. I decorated the house inside and out. It looks great. Have been keeping in touch with Uncle Leo. I will keep visiting Mommy and looking after her. Don’t worry about her Daddy. You just rest. I’ll handle things down here.

All My Love,

Janny

Janice Carte
7 years ago

Daddy,

By now you know that I wasn’t able to go home due to the extreme weather. We just couldn’t risk getting stranded there. Remember the New Years when we were only there 6 hrs. and had to leave back to Va? You all had 9 inches of snow on the ground by 6am the next day. Won’t do that anymore. I’m sending Shells basket up on Wed. so she can have it for the weekend. Stephan and some of his family are coming to Shells, she’ll be able to use the basket and homemade baked goods to serve her guests. Aunt Martha sent me the Memorial from the news paper, and The Times Leader also sent me copies. Aunt Martha said the poem was so beautiful and special. I thought so too.smile We haven’t had any snow here but the weather has been very cold. They sure have had alot of snow up your way. Garrett was supposed to return to school today, from Christmas break, but school was canceled due to the snow. Shell said it will probably be closed tomarrow also since additional snow is expected tonight. Mommy is still the same. I’m going to visit her tomarrow in the morning. I’ll let you know how the visit turns out. I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU WITH ALL MY HEART!!!!

Love,

Janny

Melanie Dufaud
7 years ago

Daddy, The Greatest Gift I Ever Had Came From God I Call Him Dad. I miss you so much. You are not only the greatest gift that God has given me, you are the greatest man that I have ever known. I still and always will miss you more everyday. You are forever in my heart, Daddy. All my love, Mel.

JANICE CARTE
7 years ago

Dear Daddy,

How quickly time flies. 2014 has ended and We are Praying for a Blessed 2015. By the way, HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!

So much has changed since I last wrote you. Brent and Brooke married in 2012 after a 4 month engagement and she ask Brent for a divorce 15 months later. It was VERY hard on Brent AND our family, but through lots of Prayers, we survived. They are ACTUALLY still seeing each other. I think the marriage happened TOO quickly and she then realized that many of her goals were going to be hindered by having a husband. All in all, things are better between them and they are BOTH happy with their present relationship. Young people today just aren’t willing to do the things and make the sacrifices necessary for a marriage. Sadly it’s NOT like it used to be.

Osama is expecting a baby girl in April. They are naming her Yasmeen. He jumped head first into TOTAL restoration of the Impala. It took six months to strip, paint and replace the chrome, but the finished job is BEAUTIFUL!!!.

Ashley is still single and ENJOYING it. I wish she could find that SPECIAL GUY, but so far it hasn’t happened.

Still working everyday and enjoying my job. Chip is doing well and enjoying life. He and Brent BOTH bought motorcycles!!!! I about had a nervous breakdown over it, then I remembered that you PROTECT US ALL, from heaven. After that reminder, I stopped worrying.

We celebrated Mommy’s 90th. birthday the day after Thanksgiving, Although she didn’t know it . I took homemade pumpkin pie, without the crust and fed it to her while she slept. She doesn’t respond to voice or touch, but will open her mouth when she feels the spoon touch her. She is curled up in fetal position, is nothing but skin and bones and has been under hospice care for 3 yrs. I just don’t understand what keeps her going!!!! Hospice ordered an air mattress to prevent bed sore, since she rarely moves from that position. PLEASE talk to God and ask Him to call Mommy home.

Well, that’s all that I have to share, for now. I will be sure to write sooner, next time, but my daily words to you keep me going until we are ALL TOGETHER AGAIN…..

LOVE AND MISS YOU WITH ALL MY âù_ï¸è

JANNY

Bill and Angel Prickett
7 years ago

Dear Jan,Chip,Michelle,and Garrett ,bill and i would like to extend our condolences to all of your family.we truly loved your dad tremedously.he was a very nice man,and we feel honored to have had the chance to get to know him over the past couple of years.he will be terribly missed.we love you all,and if we can do anything for your family,please feel free to call or stop by.with love,Bill and Angel

Susan Ball
7 years ago

For Michelle Price — I am so very sorry for your loss. I do not get a newspaper so by the time I viewed this on line, I have missed stopping by to see you. I am very sorry about that because I had planned to visit the funeral home. You and your family remain in my thoughts and prayers. If there is anything that I can do, please do not hesitate to call me Home: 695-0113; Cell: 304-281-0999. Susan

Janice Carte
7 years ago

Happy Easter Daddy,

I hope you liked your flowers, I arranged them myself. Shell said she would bring them to you this morning. I will be visiting with you the weekend of 4/23. Shell is having surgery on both feet that Fri., so I’m going up there to be with her. I’m not carrying her out on my back though! SMILE I’ve been working sporatically for Dr. Cherin, the last time was Thurs. Sure am anxious to return fulltime….keep working on that for me, Daddy. Everything has improved so with Shells life, Stephan is the greatest. I took Ollie’s arrangement to the cemetery yesterday. It was beautiful as well….I also have some blessed palms for you. I’m not sure how long I’ll be at Shells….hopefully just for the weekend. My sacrifices for lent sure paid off…I’ve lost 17 Lbs!!! I’m so excited. Ashley stuck with her lenten promise..hasn’t had a cigarette since Ash Wednesday. I’m so proud of her. I’m going to continue my lenten fast through the month of April, hoping to lose more weight, we’ll see. Chip and I are going to see Mom at 4 pm…that’s when she eats her dinner. Hopefully she’ll be awake today. We shared our Easter Dinner, together, on Good Fri, since both Ashley and Brent had to work today. Brent and Ash are both doing great, and as always, very busy. The weather has been beautiful, our Yoshimo Cherry tree is in full bloom, gorgeous. My neighbor, Mary, lost her Mom last month, she was 95, Dad, and still enjoyed visits from her family….I wish Mom could enjoy visits, but it’s not in God’s plan. Please whisper to her, call her to join you. Life for Mommy is so sad. She would never choose to live this way. Aunt Martha has been sending me some old family pictures, when you and Uncle Leo were very young…so cute. She and I talk about once a week. I’ll take her to lunch when I go home for Shell’s surgery. Give my love to Uncle Leo. Please remember how much you are loved amd missed.

LOVE AND MISS YOU WITH ALL MY HEART.

Janny

Janice Carte
7 years ago

Happy Holidays Daddy,

Today is a gloomy day for me, because it’s been “2” years since God took you to Heaven. I’ve lit your candle and I have all my wonderful memories of you to make me smile today. Chip and I went to see Mommy on Christmas. She was only interested in the cookies I brought her, not her gift. I bought her some cozy fleece pajamas, they told me she has been sleeping in her bed all night for the last “9” days, and eating quietly at the dining room table instead of walking around. Thats a huge change. She did tell Chip to stop taking pictures of her,

I couldn’t believe it. We actually got to visit with her for an hour this time, before she went back to dozing. Christmas was very nice for everyone, especially for Shell. Stephan bought her a flat screen TV, a DVD player, and a Snuggee, because she is always complaining of being cold. He gave Garrett a watch and a mens grooming kit. This is the first time Shell has had gifts under the tree for herself since Gary left, except when you or I were there for Christmas. I’m so happy for her . Our Prayers have been answered. I’m leaving to go up home on Wed. and coming back on Mon. I’m anxious to spend time with Shell and Stephan on New Years Eve and to share New Years dinner with them. Aunt Martha spent Christmas with her sister Lou and Oscar is coming up from Fla. to spend a week with her over New Years. I’m so glad she wasn’t alone for the holidays. Osama spent Christmas Eve with us but left Christmas day for Savana Georgia to visit his best friend Amsad. By now you know about the special gift he gave me for Christmas. I’m anxious to see the girls face’s when I give them their copy. I know you were watching along with us. Osama is such a special guy, and loves you so. He made a copy for himself. I will visit with you, when I get there next week, I’m sure I’ll have more to share with you by then. I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART. I hope you liked the memorial poem I wrote for the paper. You ARE my “GUARDIAN ANGEL DAD”.

All My Love,

Janny

Janice Carte
7 years ago

Hi Daddy,

I can’t believe how quickly the last few months have gone by….My new job is great, Dr. Dukes is a wonderful guy to work for…quiet, small office, I’m the ONLY assistant there, so time off is difficult…I don’t care about that, I’m just greatful and thank God to be back to work again. I know you had alot to do with my new job, so thanks Daddy.smile

Well, by now you know about ALL the excitement regarding Garrett and football…We are so proud of him and were so glad to be able to see the Shadyside game, the weekend of your birthday. Daddy, he made “EASTERN DISTRICT-REGIONAL OFFENSIVE PLAYER OF THE YEAR”, MVP at the Steubenville game awarded a HUGE trophy and has continued to keep his straight “A” average in school….I know you are smiling from ear to ear and are touched everytime he pats his hand over his heart, that’s where the tattoo, honoring you, was placed…a cross with R.I.P. PAP and the date 12-27-07….Garrett loves and really misses you Daddy…I know you touch him and protect him everyday of his life…He DID break his hand in “3” places during the 11-5-10 game…they set the hand and put it in a cast and that kid INSISTED on playing in the game on 11-12-10…..cast and All…His 80 yard kick off return was a surprise to the opponent, they thought Garrett would be clumsy and awkward with the cast…boy were they shocked..his extra

PAT cinched the game 21-20..sent them to the playoff final 12-0 first time in the schools history….They play Shadyside again next Fri. for their District title, then off to the State finals….Wish we could go home for that, who knows, maybe we will..Garrett has had such a wonderful year, full of success..he was Homecoming King..Toni and Chip gave him their new sports car to drive to the homecoming AND to use for the entire weekend. He was so excited and all this success has not made him cocky…He is so humble, Daddy…He learned so much from you.. He STILL has his Basketball season ahead of him, and as good as he is in football, he’s even BETTER at basketball…I SMELL A SCHOLARSHIP……..don’t care where, just so he gets a full-ride and gets out of the valley…So sad, but there is nothing left for any kind of future…

Ronnie left for Iraq yesterday…he will be gone for 6 months, again…He and Lynnie keep adding more to their home, so family will have a complete vacation without leaving the house…When you go there for a vacation, they treat you like ROYALTY…can’t do enough for you…we love them both. Watch over Ronnie, Daddy…

Shell has really turned her life around, making it on her own..she has struggled with a few things, but between Lynn and I, we have pulled her out and she is doing OK, AND PROUD THAT SHE IS MAKING IT ON HER OWN!!!!!!!! We stay very close, just like you wanted it to be.. We are going back home in May to throw a huge graduation party for Garrett…Lynn is renting a hall and Lynn and I are cooking the food…planning a huge bash, just the way you like it, and inviting lots of friends and family….Will be great for Garrett.

Mommy is still the same, she has swelling in her legs and feet, but refuses to wear the circulation stockings…I told them not to force her, let her go, that’s what she wants, to go to be with you, Daddy…it’s so sad..Call her home, Dad…

I’m having Thanksgiving here, as usual..the 4 of us plus the Taglis girls, Osama, Mary and Easton…everyone is looking forward to coming…

I can’t believe that Christmas is right around the corner, and I haven’t begun decorating…those are the words of a woman working FULLTIME!!!!!!! laughing

Aunt Martha sold the house and is in an apartment in the area of Wheeling Park…She is in a highrise there, where several of her friends from the telephone company live…too lonely for her in the house…that’s what happens when you don’t have children….I stay closely in touch with her and check on her frequently…

We are having the name added to the marker for your son, Daddy, just like you wanted….just like I promised…

That’s all for now….I will write again after Thanksgiving….I won’t let so much time lapse, between writings…

Love You And Miss You Everyday,

Janny

JANICE CARTE
7 years ago

Hi Daddy,

WOW, I can’t belive it has been this long since my last update. No new information regarding Mommy. She is the same. I don’t visit as often as I used to ,although I call and speak with her nurse everyday. Remember how you stopped going everyday, once she no longer knew you? Well, NOW that she has developed infant behavior, it’s just TOO DEPRESSING to go and see her that way. I KNOW Beth Sholom takes EXTREMELY good care of her, and I can’t help her with this disease, so I’ve decided to visit, only occasionally. It has been just too hard watching her decline and turning into an infant. I KNOW you understand.

Garrett is doing well, in college, and has turned into such a WONDERFUL young man. I KNOW you are proud of him, as we all are. Shell has adjusted well to the changes in her life, but I’m glad Garrett is only 30 min. from home. This made a huge difference for them both. They still can see each other on the weekends, if Garrett is not busy with practice or travelng with the team.

Work is GREAT and it’s WONDERFUL contributing, financially again. The ONLY problem I have is NOT being able to take off when I need to, since I’m his only assistant. We WON’T complain, though. I’m very fortunate to have a job. So Many DO NOT!!

Chip, Ash, and Brent are all well. Brent has met and fallen deeply in love with a terrific young girl. Her name is Brooke, she has a 3yr. old daughter,Izzy, is very intelligent, a real sweetheart, YOU WOULD LOVE HER. Her Dad graduated from Bellaire High School, in 1966. You have probably met him by now. He was called to Heaven, in 2009. Brent is CRAZY about Brooke and Izzy. He plans to marry her in the next two years. I may become a Grandma yet!!!!

Ash is STILL trying to finish school, satisfy her driving issues and I HOPE meet and fall in love with a special guy. That’s all I have ever wanted for my kids. To meet their “SPECIAL SOMEONE”, fall in love and live a happy life together. Hope and Pray this happens for Ash, as well.

Lynny is STILL dealing with daily drama from her crew. I don’t know how she does it. Between the drama, and the fact that she doesn’t take care of herself, I WORRY ABOUT HER.

We ALL were together for Garretts graduation, in May. Lynn and I hosted a WONDERFUL graduation party for Garrett…over 80 people attended. We held it at the center in St. Clairsville, the one you always liked so much. It was a HUGE success, Garrett received alot of money, Lynn bought him a lap top , as well, for school. Aunt Mil AND Aunt Martha were there. IT WAS WONDERFUL. BTW, Richie isn’t doing very well. The last I heard, he was in a nursing home, in Bellaire. You know, he just would NOT take care of himself, or listen to anything his doctors told him, so there isn’t anything , ANYONE can do for him. It is in Gods hands now.

Please Daddy, continue to watch over AND protect us. We get through our days, knowing you are protecting us from Heaven. I miss you so much, Daddy. It seems that I talk about you to someone EVERYDAY. Maybe that is Gods way of helping me cope with losing you.

Well, that’s all for now. I will write again, before the holidays. LOVE AND MISS YOU MORE EACH DAY!!!!

All My Love,

Janny

Janice Carte
7 years ago

Hi Daddy,

Sorry my visit with you last Sat. was so short, but the entire trip was that way. I wanted to make sure I was able to deliver the palm cross, I had made for you. My next trip won’t be as hectic. There was so much to do, in so little time. I was planning to stay longer with Shell, after her surgery, but my prayers were answered and I was called to work a 6 week maternity leave for Dr. David Grahams’s office. Thanks for all your help with that, Daddy. Now I’m going to pray for it to become a permanent position. I was so excited when I received the call, but was also concerned about Shells foot surgery. The surgery was three and a half hrs long, and was very extensive. The Doctor had to place pins and titanium rods in her feet to repair the damage. I spoke with the Doctor after surgery and he told me the procedure went well and that Shell would be ok staying at home without nursing care. She is going to be out of work on a 12 week short term disability leave and will receive 80% of her pay , minus commission. I told her she will have to really tighten her belt until she goes back to her regular work schedule. Stephan left his jeep with her, while he is gone this time. They get along so well and he is there for her whenever she needs him, although Shell does not take advantage of his kindness. I got to Shells on Thurs. night, we had to be at the hospital on Fri. at 7:00 am, got out of the hospital at 1:00 pm, took care of all her disability papers and post-op care on Sat., then left to go back to Va. at 8:00 am on Sun. It reminded me of the quick trips I used to make when Chip was working in Ohio…sure glad I don’t have to make those any longer…short trips are a “killer”, I must REALLY be getting old smile. I finished the 1st. of my 6 week work commitment on Thurs., the office is closed on Fri. It was so good to be back working again. I’m not cut out to be sitting idle at home. I have to have a huge project to keep me busy. I’ve pretty much completed house projects in the 18 months I was out of work, so being called back to work came in the nick of time. I’ve gotten my weight down and I am wearing a size 4 now, but I’m not throwing my “Big Girl” clothes away, because I’ve been here before. I still have about 10 pounds more to lose, then I’ll have to work REALLY hard to maintain my weight. It’s a struggle. My NEW philosophy is, “If it tastes good, don’t eat it”, rabbit food and fresh fruit for me smile. Visited with Mommy yesterday. It was really pleasant. I got there just as they were taking the residents to lunch so I was able to feed Mommy. As long as you are giving her food, she will tolerate the visit. I will go at lunch time, from now on. Lynn had another problem with her breast implant and had to be hospitalized for a few days and given IV antibiotics. I’m saying a 54 day Novena for her, so I know this time will be successful. Chip, Ash, and Brent are doing well. Daddy, You would really enjoy talking with Brent now, the shyness is gone, he starts conversations, is quite funny, and doesn’t blush like he used to. This new job dealing directly with the public, has brought him out of his shell and has given him the confidence he needed. Garrett is getting ready for football, weight lifting and trying to put on some weight and muscle. He has ALREADY received some offers from 2 small schools, I know more will come this year. Well Daddy, thats all the news for now. I will write again real soon. I lOVE AND MISS YOU SOOOOO MUCH. Watch over us Daddy. I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART.

Love, Janny

Janice L. Carte
7 years ago

Hi Daddy,

Happy Father’s Day and Happy Anniversary. I have been so busy with my new job, but I’m not complaining. It is so exciting…being back to work. I’ve been working fulltime since June 7 and I am finally feeling like I’ve found my dental home again. I’m Dr. Dukes only assistant, a small practice, very similar to Dr. Kramers. I’m responsible for EVERYTHING, and am able to set things up and organize as I see fit…I LOVE IT, noooo drama. Mom is the same….I’ve been visiting on Fri. or Sat, depending on my work schedule. I try to visit at lunch, so I get to feed her. She doesn’t communicate with me at all…no changes. Shell is still out on disability for her foot surgery…it is taking longer to heal, the x-rays showed arthritis in her feet, no surprise to me. I have it in my fingers, right hand, my right foot and now I’m having ALOT of trouble with my right hip….pray for me Daddy, I don’t want to have to have a hip replacement!!! I see the doctor on July 20. My hip popped out last week at work, and it caused me to fall down on the floor, could not use my right leg. When Dr. Dukes pulled me up, it popped back into place, but I’ve had constant pain since….it’s been hard walking and sitting. I was having problems with my hip about 2 yrs ago, but once I lost weight, the hip stopped hurting. I only weigh 138 lbs. and I’m still trying to lose another 8 to 10 lbs. I’m wearing a size 4, in somethings a size 2. I have to keep the weight off to help this hip. Ash, Brent and Chip are all well. Brent bought Chip a kayak for Fathers day/ birthday gift and Ash had a WVU corn hole board made for Chip…he was so excited. I didn’t buy for B-day or Fathers Day, we had a stamped patio put in and pebbled sidewalks in the back yard…no more wooden deck…no more mosquitoes…our present to one another for the next SEVERAL occasions. Lynn and Ron will be here for Thanksgiving this year. Shell was going to try to come down this summer, but her foot surgery changed those plans. I spoke with Aunt Martha last week, she was just getting over the flu, but sounded OK. Tell Uncle Leo, I send my love and will check on Aunt Martha when I get home for a visit. Well Daddy, that’s all the news for now. The rest, you already know about, so there is no need to write about it. I wish you were here so I could hug and kiss you. I miss you more as each day passes. I’ve joined a special cancer cause called, “I’ve lost Someone Special To Cancer”. This group raises awareness as well as money to battle this killer…I do this in your memory, Daddy.

I LOVE AND MISS YOU WITH ALL MY HEART!!!!

♥♥♥ Janny

Janice Carte
7 years ago

Hi Daddy,

We celebrated Mommy’s birthday on the 28th. at Beth Sholom. Since she is unable to use eating utensils and won’t allow anyone to feed her, I bought that 72ct soft cookie tray fom Sams Club and substituted that for b-day cake. We bought that tray for her when she was at Churchland House, remember? Everyone sang happy birthday to her and ate the cookies, but Mommy never raised her head….she ate her cookie with her eyes closed….so pitiful. she only uses one word at a time now, none of them making much sense. Still walking though, still calls your name. They called me last week saying her mind woke up for several minutes and she began yelling, “Mel, I want to go to church. Take me to church.” That went on for several minutes, then she slipped back to the one word baby talk. I feel so sorry for Mommy because I know she doesn’t want to live this way. We all need to pray that God calls her home to be with you. Aunt Martha called on Friday to tell me she visited Uncle Leo on Thanksgiving and she loved the flowers I placed, when I was there for your birthday. Osama and a girl he is dating came for Thanksgiving. We fried a turkey and baked a breast….all the usual sides and pumpkin and cherry pie. We honored you in our Thanksgiving Prayer and burned your candle. YOU WERE RIGHT HERE WITH US!!! Garretts team lost the second game of the playoffs, a big disappointment for them, but Garrett did the best he could alone, since Chris broke his ankle on the 3rd play of the game. Shell is seeing Stephan now and he and Garrett have become pretty close. Garrett likes him alot. He gave Garrett a job on his web site business. Things are looking up!!!smile I will write you again real soon. I LOVE AND MISS YOU EVERYDAY!!!

All My Love,

Janny

Janice Carte
7 years ago

Hi Daddy,

I just got over a 4 day stomach flu so I didn’t get out to see Mom this week. I visited with her last Friday. She has been sleeping in her bed at night and is pretty much confined to the wheelchair now. For a while , they were calling me 4 to 5 times a week to advise me that Mom had fallen, all due to changes in her meds, so I’m glad she isn’t walking anymore. I was so worried about her falling and possibly breaking her hip. How awful that would be and so painful. She would never recover. Maybe she has stopped walking because she is ready to join you Daddy. You need to call her to be with you. She has no quality of life left here and needs to begin her new life in heaven with you. By now you know about Chip’s New Years resolution. I was so excited when he told me he wanted to start going to church. We went to St. Marks last Sat. evening and sat in “OUR” same seat, surrounded by the same people with Father Jim saying mass. It was so emotional for me, but in a warm special way. I felt you sitting right next to us smile. I spoke to Aunt Martha and Aunt Mil last week. Both are well, Aunt Martha was sick with the flu for a week, but is much better now. Give my love to Uncle Leo. Aunt Mil is getting stronger every day. We are talking about moving Grandma Uchanski to the site next to Grandpap…right now we are in the talking phase, I’ll keep you posted. I’m going to add your baby boys name to Grandma’s headstone. Aunt Mil told me you wanted to name him, but were talked out of it by family members. Don’t worry Daddy, your boy will finally be named. I know how much you wanted that. Shell is enjoying her new life with Stephan. He treats her like a queen and is so good to Garrett, as well. Garrett is excelling in basketball, just like football. Chip brags to people all the time, and reads the Times Leader online after every game. Ash and Brent are doing great and working hard. We are refinancing our home for a lower interest rate. Hopefully this will help until I can return to work. We have depleted our savings. Put a good word in for me up there, Dad, so I can get back to work. We are going to mass tomarrow night, same time, same pew. I’ll “FEEL” you there. I LOVE AND MISS YOU MORE AND MORE EACH DAY.

Janny

Janice Carte
7 years ago

Hi Daddy,

I’ve been so busy preparing for Christmas. I’ve baked “8” raisin-nut rolls, “8” nut rolls, “8” banana bread, “8” applesauce cakes, “4”doz. raisin filled cookies, “4” doz. pecan tarts, and “10” doz. powdered butter nut ball cookies. I finished filling “6” Christmas baskets and delivered “3” of them today. I’ll deliver the other “3” on Christmas Eve. If the weather holds out, Chip and I are going to Shells for New Years. I’m taking a basket of all my baked goods to her and Garrett, and she requested a big tray of my lasagna. I already packed my recipe. I addressed and sent “68” Christmas cards, your list and mine. I sent everyone an update on Mom’s condition. They all responded and thanked me for remembering them. I talk with Aunt Martha “3” times a month, she seems to be doing “ok”. It must be hard, not having children. Aunt Mil was rushed to the hospital, on your BIRTHDAY,for a blockage in her heart, they placed a stent. She is coming along very well. I visit Mom every week Daddy, even though she doesn’t know or care that I am there. I pray every night that God ends her suffering so you both can be together again. She still calls your name. Shell told me she placed the Christmas arrangement I made for you. I hope you liked it. Chip and I delivered Ollie’s arrangement last weekend. I was so pleased with both floral arrangements, and really enjoyed making them myself. Ashley and Brent are doing well, still sharing an apartment together. Shell and Stephan are becoming closer every day. Garrett really likes and respects him and he likes Garrett. Chip will meet Stephan over New Years, and I will visit with you. Thank you for looking over and protecting us Daddy. I feel safe knowing you are my “Guardian Angel”. I miss you more every day, but I have such wonderful memories to hold on to.

All My Love,

Janny

Janice Carte
7 years ago

Hi Daddy,

It’s Ash Wednesday, I went to noon mass to receive ashes then went to see Mommy. I don’t know what to say, except so pitiful. She was slumped over in the chair mumbling, not responsive. I wish you could call her to be with you Daddy. She just sleeps and eats, nothing more. It’s so hard to visit her and see her in this condition. I gave up all bread products, sweets, and all snacks for Lent. Ashley gave up smoking, hopefully by Easter, she won’t start back. You know, this Nov. 1st will be 5yrs since I’ve had a cigarette and I don’t even miss them. Celebrated my 58th birthday on the 1st. Chip and the kids took me out to dinner, then gifts of course. I’m so blessed to have a family who loves me, but of course I love them even more. The snow is still causing havoc up home and Garrett has missed so much school and so many basketball games have been canceled. Shell and Stephan are growing closer and closer each day. He really treated her like a queen on Valentimes Day. Beautiful flowers, heart shaped box of Russell Stover chocolates, Strawberries in champagne, and dinner at his home. He is a wonderful cook and they eat dinner at his home alot. He loves cooking for her, then watching movies together after dinner. She is so happy now, and I am so excited for her. As always, I bought Valentines gifts for my whole family. Cologne and Starbucks card for Ashley, Cold Stone ice cream cake and Olive Garden card for Brent, hard candies and card for Chip. I know it sounds silly, but I have bought valentines for them since they were babies, can’t stop now smile. We are closing on our home refinancing this Friday. Keep working on finding a job for me Dad, I need to get back to work. I LOVE AND MISS YOU VERY MUCH.

Love,

Janny

Janice Carte
7 years ago

Hi Daddy,

Rode the ocean front last week with Chip and Osama in the 70 Impala. We call it the BEAST. It runs like a dream and Osama was thrilled to be able to buy it. He said he knows you are happy that it did not go to a stranger. He and Chip are taking it to the fall antique car show. A dealer told Chip that it would have taken the purse at the last show because there wasn’t a car there that could have matched the condition of the Impala. I know that makes you proud. When Osama was driving it last Sat. on the strip, he looked up to the heavens and said “Mel, I know you are smiling right now.” Mom had a rough 2 weeks. the residents kept passing around a virus that caused Mom to take to her bed for 2 days. It’s the first time she slept in that bed in the year that she has been there. She is up and about now. I’m going to visit tomarrow. They had asked all visitors to stay away until they got the virus under control. Talked to Uncle Leo last week. He is doing great. Took HIMSELF off the oxygen. So much like you smile. I’ve been busy painting inside the house, now I’m going to paint the shed. Can’t wait to go to Lynns on the 31st. It’s going to be such a great time, just the kind of gathering that you always enjoyed.I really, really, really, miss you Daddy, but I’m comforted knowing that you are resting with our Lord. I will write you again real soon.

I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART,

Janny

Janice Carte
7 years ago

Hi Daddy,

Went to the Greek festival yesterday and watched the Jubilee fireworks this evening. Chip and I mentioned how much you enjoyed this weekend. The fireworks were spectacular. They seem to get better every year. Had a really nice visit with Mom last week on Mothers Day. I spoke to her in polish and she answered me and said, “Thats polish, thats pretty” We couldn’t believe it. It was nice to have her respond to something. I guess she was just having a good day. Most of the time she is sleeping, because she starts walking aroud 8:30 at night and continues until 8:30 in the morning . She walks up and down the halls looking for you Daddy, and calling your name. It’s so pitiful, she wants to be with you but just hasn’t found the way. Call to her Daddy. She needs to be with you. I want her to finally be at peace. Bought a crazy thing called a topsy-turvy tomato planter. You would frown on this one, but it really does work. You plant the tomato plant upside down. Lots of buds and 1 tomato on the vine already. Keep watching over us Daddy and know that you are loved and really missed evey day.

LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART,

Janny

Janice Carte
7 years ago

Hi Daddy,

It’s a dreary March day, but at least it’s not snowing. We only had that one huge accumulation of 9 inches, but that’s alot for this area. Spoke with Aunt Martha today, we were laughing while sharing some memories and discussing some photographs she sent me. Aunt Martha has had some “sad” days , but is handling them “OK”. Give Uncle Leo my love and tell him I keep in close contact with Aunt Martha. I try to call her at least three times a month, sometimes more often. We always find something new to talk about. Went to see Mommy on Friday, boy was she feisty. She swung at me, called me a few choice words, and turned away each time I tried to talk to her. She hasn’t been that way in a long while. So Sad! Things are still wonderful for Shell and Stephan. Garrett’s team won the OVAC championship and he was interviewed on TV. He had 24 points in that game. Shell met with Garretts educational advisor, who told Shell that Garrett is going to be looked at next year.I’m sure the scouts were watching this yea also. His name was in the paper after every game! Can’t believe he is going to be a senior. Lynn and Ronnie are doing fine, Tonya and her family are visiting this week for spring break. Shell and Garrett are coming here for vacation this year, Shell wants to see Mommy.I worked three days last week, one day the week before, and I’m working 2 days this week with Dr. Cherin. Sure hope they call me back permanently. It felt sooo good to get back to work and feel productive again. This staying at home stuff is for the birds! smile. Well, back to the laundry and cleaning. I’ll write to you again next month. lOTS OF LOVE TO MY GUARDIAN ANGEL DAD.

♥ Janny XOXOXO

Janice Carte
7 years ago

Hi Daddy,

It’s a dreary March day, but at least it’s not snowing. We only had that one huge accumulation of 9 inches, but that’s alot for this area. Spoke with Aunt Martha today, we were laughing while sharing some memories and discussing some photographs she sent me. Aunt Martha has had some “sad” days , but is handling them “OK”. Give Uncle Leo my love and tell him I keep in close contact with Aunt Martha. I try to call her at least three times a month, sometimes more often. We always find something new to talk about. Went to see Mommy on Friday, boy was she feisty. She swung at me, called me a few choice words, and turned away each time I tried to talk to her. She hasn’t been that way in a long while. So Sad! Things are still wonderful for Shell and Stephan. Garrett’s team won the OVAC championship and he was interviewed on TV. He had 24 points in that game. Shell met with Garretts educational advisor, who told Shell that Garrett is going to be looked at next year. I’m sure the scouts were watching this year also. His name was in the paper after every game! Can’t believe he is going to be a senior. Lynn and Ronnie are doing fine, Tonya and her family are visiting this week for spring break. Shell and Garrett are coming here for vacation this summer, Shell wants to see Mommy. Lynn and Ronnie are coming here for Thanksgiving and Mommy’s birthday. I love it when they come then. They will be here for 10 days. I worked three days last week, one day the week before, and I’m working 2 days this week with Dr. Cherin. Sure hope they call me back permanently. It felt sooo good to get back to work and feel productive again. This staying at home stuff is for the birds! smile. Well, back to the laundry and cleaning. I’ll write to you again next month. LOTS OF LOVE TO MY GUARDIAN ANGEL DAD.

♥ Janny XOXOXO

Janice L. Carte
7 years ago

Hi Daddy,

Just checking in with you to give you an update on the family. I went to the Doctor on 7/20 for my hip. My problem, however, is not my hip but my sciatic nerve. Somehow it got pinched or slipped out of place causing all that pain I’ve been experiencing. This is really good news, because with time, exercise and alot of Advil, it will get better. Shell is back to work now, although her foot is not completely healed and swells after being on it all day. She is hanging in there and glad to be back to work. Ronnie had shoulder surgery yesterday for a partial tear of his rotator cup. He is doing great, just a bad patient, already complaining because he is in a shoulder sling and is limited as to how much he can do. Just like a man.âòºâòºâòº My job is going very well, love being back to work and bringing home a paycheck. We’ve really been enjoying our new patio and have had a couple large cookouts. Just the kind you always enjoyed, lots of friends, family, and food. Mommy has been giving the staff a hard time for the last couple of weeks. She is trying to walk again, but her leg muscles are very weak now and she has fallen a couple times, so staff members are trying to hold her on both sides and walk her. She doesn’t like it, lot’s of cursing going on. So sad Daddy. Whisper to her, so she can find the way to you. She still calls your name. She really does not like visitors, therefore my visits are really short. I just can’t see upsetting her needlessly. I’m still praying for all the other family problems, soon to be over, with Gods help. I’m protecting the innocent, just the way you would want me to and the way I promised I would. Spoke with Osama, he is doing well, soon to be married to a girl from Jordan. I keep up with Brea, Larry and Todd, and Pete Bogetich on Facebook. All are well and mention you often, missing you as we all do. Well, thats all the news for now , so I will close by telling you that I LOVE YOU, MISS OUR MORNING TALKS, FRIDAY SHOPPING,AND YOUR CONTAGIOUS SMILE. I love and miss you more each day. Keep watching over us Daddy, we need you.

♥♥♥ Janny

Brenda Kotera
7 years ago

Julie & family,

I was so sad to hear about Mel. He was such a good neighbor. Since moving from the area,I didn’t have contact with the two of you and didn’t realize you had moved away. I remember him stopping by the house with Mr. Winzenreid on the golf cart to visit with my lab puppies or just to gab. He will be missed very much by many friends and most of all by you, his loving family. Please accept my thoughts and prayers and take care. He was a wonderful person!

Former Boyd Ridge Road neighbor,

Brenda Kotera

JANICE L CARTE
4 years ago

Sweet Daddy,
I KNOW you are finally complete again, now that Mommy is by your side. Life here on earth will ALWAYS be missing our family link without you and Mommy, but I feel so much comfort knowing you will both be watching us, from Heaven. Much has changed since I last wrote you. ASH finally met the love of her life, is engaged and will be married on Oct.13 of this year. We never thought it would happen (laughing). Brent has met a very nice girl and we all love her…she is beautiful inside and out. Garrett has his own delivery business and is doing well….Shell is doing great and is busy with home improvements. She has made a lot of positive changes to her home and loves it. I am still working 40 hrs. a week with Dr. Dukes and plan on working as long as he keeps his practice open. I love my job and it keeps my mind active. I PRAY this will spare me from Mommy’s disease. Chip is planning on retiring next year and working at something he enjoys, maybe golf…we both enjoy and are BLESSED with good health ….we are still a Boxer family and have 2 sisters, litter mates…THEY KEEP ME ACTIVE AS WELL!!!!!! YIKES!!!!! Their names are Bella and Zoe….wish you were here to train them, as they are spoiled and not very good listeners. Keep the candles burning in Heaven….I will write again soon…… I LOVE YOU WITH ALL OF MY HEART!
Love,
Janny

Melanie Dufaud
2 years ago

Dear Daddy. I just wanted to tell you Happy Fathers Day. You were a really great Dad and both you and Mom worked so very hard to bring us up to be good people and we were so lucky to have you both as our parents. I think about you every single day. It is so very hard to not have you and Mommy here. But at least I have the best memories that keep me close to you. I am so lucky that I got to be your daughter. Tell Mommy that I said hello. I love you Daddy. With all of my love, Mel.

Melanie Dufaud
2 years ago

Dear Daddy. I just wanted to wish you a very Happy Fathers Day. It is so hard being without you. But I think about you every single day. I think how lucky I was to have both you and Mommy as my parents. But I still have so many memories to make me smile. Please tell Mommy hello for me. I love you so very much and you will always be in my heart forever. I love you Daddy. Love, Mel.

Melanie Dufaud
7 months ago

Dear Dad. Here it is another Father’s Day and I miss you more and more every day. I just want you to know that you were such a great Dad. You worked so very hard to take care of all of us. You worked from sun up to sun down and never ever complained. I know how lucky I am that you are my Dad. Thank you forteaching me right from wrong and for making my life so wonderful. I miss you and love you so very much..HAPPY FATHER’S DAY DAD..All My love Mel❤️❤️

Melanie Dufaud
3 months ago

HAPPY BIRTHDAY DAD. I miss you more and more each day. I hope to see you again one day. All my love Mel. ????