Mary Katherine Fickling

April 14, 1920 - July 17, 2009

04/14/1920 - 07/17/2009

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Visitation
Thursday July 23, 2009
6:00 pm - 8:00 pm
Altmeyer Funeral Home - Virginia Beach
5792 Greenwich Road
Virginia Beach, VA 23462
800-934-4648 | Directions
Cemetery
Friday July 24, 2009
Forest Lawn Cemetery
8100 Granby Street
Norfolk, VA 23505
757-441-1753 | Directions
Service
Friday July 24, 2009

Norfolk – Mary Katherine Fickling, 89, passed away July 17, 2009. Born in West Virginia, she was the daughter of the late John and Jane Vargo. She was a member of the Potter’s House in Norfolk. As a member of The 60 Plus Club at Ocean View Senior Center, she served as past assistant treasurer.

Mary leaves behind to cherish her memory her two daughters, Kathy Arnold and her husband Jack of CA, and Melody Mollric and her husband Joe of OH; seven grandchildren, William, Kristine, Katie, John, Rachael, Micah, and Joe II; five great-grandchildren, Brooke, Delaney, Gracie, Mia and Ethan; and her brother, Jack Vargo of WV. She was preceded in death by her husband of 43 years, Joseph Gordon Fickling.

The family will receive friends from 6 to 8p.m. Thursday at Altmeyer Funeral Home 5792 Greenwich Road in Virginia Beach. A Funeral Service will be held at 11 a.m. Friday, July 24, 2009, at Altmeyer Funeral Home, with Pastor Wendell Hodges officiating. Burial will follow in Forest Lawn Cemetery in Norfolk. Memorial donations may be made to the American Cancer Society and/or to a charity of one’s choice. Condolences may be offered to the family at altmeyer.com.

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Patricia St. Clair
7 years ago

Dear Kathy, Melodie, and family,

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of Mary Katherine. Aunt Mary Katherine had such a beautiful spirit-she was true and honest to herself and always followed her heart. She had a witty sense of humor and loved to spoil little dogs, especially my Benson! Our family enjoyed having her company during these past few holidays and will truly miss her! My deepest condolences to you and your families during these most difficult times.

Love, Tricia

Brenda & Scott Vargo
7 years ago

Dear Kathy, Melody & families,

Please accept our sincere condolences in the loss of your Mom,& Grandmother. Aunt Mary was always good to us- even let us stay at the cottage for our honeymoon. We have fond memories of her hospitality & kindness. We know that she loved her family fiercely & was always proud of all of you & the Vargo name. She was indeed a woman of substance & strong faith. Wish we could be there to share remembrances & give you all our love and support in person but we just can’t make arrangements. We will make a donation & have a Mass said. As difficult as her passing is, take some comfort in knowing that she is welcomed with open arms by Gordon & her family in heaven. What a reunion that must be! You will all be in our thoughts & supported by our prayers. Please keep in touch-Love, Brenda Kay & Scott

Mary Prather Crawford
7 years ago

Dear Melody & family, I heard of your loss and I wanted to extend my sympathy to you. I’m praying for God to surround & keep you in His comfort & strength. You are greatly loved.

Sharon Evans
7 years ago

Dear Melody and Kathy,

To you and your family. I am so very sorry to know how sad you must be at this time, however I’m trusting that you and your family will celebrate your Mother’s life and honor her with fond memories of the cherished times you had her in your lives. While your family and friends come together to comfort you and each other, I hope you will take comfort, knowing I too will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I’m sorry I am unable to share in this time of celebration with you and meet your families. I think of you often, Melody and remember our times together while growing up with special fondness.

May Our Lord, Jesus Christ, hold you and your families, lovingly in HIS Care and give you that Peace that goes beyond all understanding. Into HIS Presence, your Mother now walks with Your Dad. Rejoice in her passing.

This is a time of Celebration!

Your “old friend”

Sharon

Courtney Vargo
7 years ago

Dear Melody, Kathy, and families,

I want to tell you how truly sorry I am about Aunt Mary Katherine’s passing. Although it had been a few years since I had seen her, she was always so kind and considerate to us all. We had such a fun and memorable time when we were able to visit her and Gordon in VA many years ago. Please know that you all will continuously be in my thoughts and prayers during this most difficult time.

Love, Courtney

William Arnold
7 years ago

Grandma,

I want you to know how thankful we are for the way you touch our lives. I’ll cherish the values and experiences you gave me forever. It saddens me to have to say goodbye to your physical presence, but I have joy in knowing that our spirits will again one day be reunited in heaven. I’ll remember and love you forever.

Love Billy

Cousin Janie
7 years ago

I was so sorry to hear of the passing of your Mom and I know the devastating feeling when we lose our Mother. However, we can be assured that she is now in the arms of our loving heavenly Father and will suffer no more.

Today would have been my Mother’s 95th birthday. We were on vacation when I learned of your Mother’s death and we will not return home until next Saturday. Please be assured we think of you often and wish we could see each other more often.

William & Carmen
7 years ago

Just as the sun will set then rise with each and every dawn, the souls of those who lived life well eternally live on… now that the sun has seemed to set on one so very dear, please know a soul who lived so well remains near forever near. With heartfelt sympathy ! We loved Penny very much and she will be missed very much! we love you Penny

Justin, Lesley, Garrett & Jayna Vargo
7 years ago

Kathy, Melodie, and family:

We offer our sincerest thoughts and prayers for the passing of Aunt Mary Katherine. I remember going down to visit her and Gordon as a kid and how much fun we had. She was always so kind and giving, and always sent us gifts at Christmas. Although we hadn’t seen her since Grandad passed away, she was often in our thoughts. She was a very inspiring, wonderful person, and I know she will be missed. If there is anything we can do, please let us know, and again we offer you our deepest apologies. You are all in our thoughts at this difficult time. Much love and sympathy,

Justin, Lesley, Garrett, and Jayna Vargo

Shirley Prather
7 years ago

May God give you the peace that passes understanding and strength through this time of grief.

Susan Raines Story
7 years ago

Melody and Kathy,

Words can not express what your mother ment to me, and how deeply sadden I am on her passing.

As a teenager, she shared herself with me, which was something I did not get at home and that ment so very much. Baking Christmas cookie, Giving you and I Melody singing lessons…Taking us to Ballet and staying to watch, she took the time to be with us and many other memories will stay in my heart and will always mean so much to me. She was a very special lady. And there was the time she scared us at the door. And i remember her little Itty Bit.And so many other things come to mind.

Later, I would take the boys to visit when they were young, and they played in sand and water, while your mother and I visited. After moving away from Norfolk, I enjoyed visiting with her and she shared and told me stories about her family pictures and she bring out the family photo albums, and share stories with me. She was so proud of her family, and always talked about you all. She was always so happy to see me and made me feel so loved, it was wonderful to see her smile and laugh.

At Christmas I would send her puzzles and Steven would take them to her . She was always so very happy for the company. And Steven got to know her and she shared with him. That was a blessing also, for Penny and Steven.

I fell so very blessed that I was able to come to Norfolk and spend time with her toward the end.

God’s timing is so good…always is.

Melody and Kathy you both have my love and I pray for your strength and peace in the passing of your mother. And am thankful for being a part of your family.

God bless you both.

Forever and always my love and prayers, Sue

Kevin and Keri Thibodeaux
7 years ago

Ms Penny was a wonderful woman and great to be around. She will be missed. We send our condolences to her family.

kim and norman coggins
7 years ago

OUR THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU ALL. YOUR MOM, MY AUNT MARY KATHERINE WAS LIKE A SECOND MOTHER TO ME, I REMEMBER GOING TO THE COTTAGE WITH MY PARENTS AS A LITTLE GIRL, IT WAS A TRADITION FOR US TO GO SEE YOUR MOM, MY DAD LOVED HER SO MUCH AND WANTED US TO BE CLOSE. AS I GREW INTO A WOMAN OF COURSE I LOST MY MOM AT AGE 20 AND WAS DEVASTED. YOUR MOM WAS ALWAYS THERE FOR ME. I CALLED HER QUITE OFTEN AND SHE WAS THERE DURING THE HIGH LIGHTS OF MY LIFE, SUCH AS GRADUATION FROM COLLEGE, MY WEDDING, MOVING INTO MY FIRST HOME. SHE GAVE ME GOOD ADVICE AND ALWAYS MADE ME LAUGH AND SOMETIMES CRY, BUT SHE HAD A SENSE OF HUMOR THAT I LIKED. SHE OF COURSE GAVE HER OPINION AND I ALWAYS LISTENED. WE BECAME EVEN CLOSER AS WE GREW OLDER. I WOULD SEND HER PICTURES OF MY CHILDREN AND SHE WOULD ALWAYS ASK ABOUT THEM EVERY TIME WE WOULD TALK. SHE TRULY LOVED MY HUSBAND NORMAN AND WAS HAPPY FOR ME. SHE ALWAYS ENJOYED VISITING US FOR THANKSGIVING AND CHRISTMAS, SHE WOULD PEEL THE POTOTOES FOR ME AND HELPED ME IN MY KITCHEN. I AM VERY HURT AND CRY FOR HER BUT I KNOW THAT THE LORD HAS TAKEN HER TO A BETTER PLACE AND SHE IS WITH MY DAD NOW. PLEASE FORGIVE ME FOR SUCH A LONG DIALOGUE, BUT I TRULY LOVED YOUR MOM..

LOVE KIM AND NORMAN COGGINS,

LOVE ALSO FROM CHRIS, CRAIG AND KYLE

Larry Hollowell Family
7 years ago

To the entire Fickling family, please accept our sincere condolences at the loss of Mary Katherine. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. I know the Granby High School class of ’67 shares these sentiments during this time of great sadness.

Joe and Jenn Mendez
7 years ago

We will miss your smile and sense of humor. You will always be remembered. Hope you enjoy your “pink wings”

Luanne Nicks
7 years ago

Your mom was a very special lady!I met her two years ago on the 4th of July at Quinn’s place-next door and she came and sat on the deck and watched the fireworks with us. She made my mom and dad feel so good about being there–mom had just had a stroke and Penny talked to her and made her feel so much better! My dad had a massive stroke in May and passed away 2 months later. We will always remember the fun we had with her. I always checked on her when I went to Quinn’s house. She and I liked the same things and we decorated alot alike! She will always hold a special place in my heart. God bless you and your families! Love, Luanne Nicks