Joseph J. Bolcarovic, Jr.

September 28, 1961 - August 30, 2002

09/28/1961 - 08/30/2002

Past Services

Tuesday September 03, 2002
7:00 pm - 8:00 pm
Altmeyer Funeral Home - Virginia Beach
5792 Greenwich Road
Virginia Beach, VA 23462
800-934-4648 | Directions
Tuesday September 03, 2002
8:00 pm
Altmeyer Funeral Home - Virginia Beach
5792 Greenwich Road
Virginia Beach, VA 23462
800-934-4648 | Directions

Virginia Beach

Joseph J. Bolcarovic Jr., 40, of Virginia Beach died on Friday, August 30, 2002.

He is survived by his mother, Marion Bolcarovic of Virginia Beach; brother, Frank Bolcarovic of New Jersey; and sister, Dianne M. O

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8 years ago


Dianne M O'Donnell
8 years ago

Dear Baby Brother,

We have had our ups and downs like all brothers and sisters do but I love you so very very much. I miss you so much. I have a pain in my heart that will never go away. I am gonna miss you doing my hair, you were such a great hairdresser. I don’t know what to say. I am so very numb. I may laugh on the outside but I am deeply saddened by you leaving. I hope you rest in peace and know I will always love you.

Love your sister,


8 years ago

Dear Brother,

If only I could kiss your lips,

and hold you for a while,

Hear your beating heart so close,

or touch your gentle smile.

If only I could hold your hand,

so tight, that you could feel,

the words my heart is holding,

and you’d know my love was real.

If only I could speak the words,

I speak when you’re not there,

you’d hear the depth of love for you,

and see how much I care.

If only I could show you, me,

And never from you hide,

you’d see the person that I am,

and keep me by your side.

If only I could look at you,

my eyes displaying clear,

they’d speak the words, ‘ I love you’

as I whisper in your ear.

If only I could build a path,

that led right to your door,

I’d line it with the love I hold,

for you, for evermore.

If only I could walk that path,

that reaches to your heart,

I’d close the gate behind me,

and we’d never be apart………

I love & miss you very much.

Happy Easter

Love your sister,


8 years ago

Dear Joey,

Our families share a long history, some great, some good and some that could be improved. You and I share a lot more, we share one precious baby girl who we christened together and we will always be connected by the love Kristin has for both of us. I remember the times we babysat her and neither one of us knew anything about babies. I guess we did Ok since she has grown up to be a wonderful young woman. Your life was taken way too soon but I guess God has plans for use we don’t know about. I know you are in a wonderful place and I’m sure God willing, I will meet you there someday.

Love, Patrice

Janice Bolcarovic
8 years ago

Dear Joey,

Even though we haven’t spoken to each other in the last couple of years I will always cherished the memories I have of you. We had so much fun when we all got together. I hope you know that I do love you and you will be missed. I know you are at peace now. Love, Jan

Dianne M. O'Donnell
8 years ago

Dear Joey,

I miss you so much. A day don’t go by without me crying and missing you. I want to hear your voice, see you, hug you, and give you a kiss. Yes, and even call you a brat. We had our arguments but I love you so much. It’s just not fair. I still don’t understand WHY. I am so numb, so lost, and so confused. Under my smile I am so very sad. I am so glad I was home with a virus for a week or I would not have seen you the last two times that I did. I just sit stirring, confused, and so sad that my baby brother is gone. We all moved all your things from the trailer today, I brought your remains home Thursday and held you and cryed. Please know I will always love you little brother. I do know that I was always there for you. May your heart be happy and may you rest in peace. I miss you so much.

Love you always your sister,


Anthony J. Pinto
8 years ago

Dear Joey,

It’s so hard to say goddbye to a good friend. So many memories to remember, so many good times we shared. Your face will forever light up my heart. Your soul will forever me missed.


Your Friend


Maggie Alfonso
8 years ago

Dear Joey,

Why didn’t I return your phone call on Wed? I will regret that always. I remember our last visit together when you stayed at my house. How much fun we had! How much we laughed!! A better girlfriend I could not have. :*

My heart is sad, my life is changed forever. I know you are in a better place. At peace, with no pain. We will soon have our last goodbye! I love you lots!!

Your Cousin,


Lenore Wolke
8 years ago

Dear Joseph:

I have been so sad all morning and I woke up so sad and cried and cried. I told Linda Harris and she is so saddened also. You know we loved you and we were so glad you were getting your life together and were in a safe place. Barbara Fitzpatick and I are looking at the web site and we are both crying now. I hope you can see how much you were loved by all our tears. You made your mark in our lives. You’ll be in our thoughts forever. Heaven will never be quiet with you there, dear one. You were to young to die. We are all devestated here n Wayne. To my good friend, I’ll miss you.

Love Lenore

8 years ago

Dear Marion, Diane and Frank,

I can’t tell you how sad I am for your loss. I can’t imagine the pain in losing a son and a brother. It is beyond my comprehension. I can only say that the memories I have of Joey I will cherish and I will pray that someday soon you will have peace in your life. There are no words or actions I can give to bring comfort or take away the pain. I can only say that God has his reasons and Joey is in a place that we can only pray we get to. Celebrate his life, it would be what he would want.



george szabo
8 years ago

deepest condolences to the family.


Dianne M O'Donnell
8 years ago

Happy Birthday Baby Brother

As kids, we lived together, We fought, we laughed, we cried. We did not always show the love, that we both had inside.

We shared our dreams and plans, and some secrets too. All the memories we shared, It still bonds me close to you.

We grew to find we have a love, that is still very strong today. Itís a love shared by us, family, that will never fade away.

You are my brother not by choice, but by the nature of our birth, but I find myself sad and blue cause your not here with me on earth.

I love and miss you Joseph.

Love your sister,


8 years ago

Happy Birthday Uncle Joe! I love and miss you dearly.


8 years ago

Happy Birthday Uncle Joe! We have not forgotten about you and we all love and miss you so much. I got my hair cut not to long ago. I was very worried about getting it done. you were the only one i trusted with my hair. I wish you were here.. but i know that you are up in heaven now looking down on us and keeping us safe. Love you always and forever.




Patty Richards
8 years ago

I am so sorry for your loss. I know that he is now in a much better place, and that he is thought of as a loving brother, uncle, son, and friend. Everyone will miss him very much. God Bless each of you. Love, Patty Richards

8 years ago

I want to cry now

I really do

Im so sad and so blue

my uncle passed on Friday

It made my family cry

He had to go sometime

But why now god, why?

Now we cant even talk

Or hug or kiss or even laugh

Im okay for now

Im gonna miss him so

But i told him once ill tell him again

I’ll love you until the end

the love lives on

I’ll miss you so much

Fly to heaven now Joseph J.

You’ve got your wings

I’ll get mine also some day

R.I.P Uncle Joe.

Dianne M. O'Donnell
8 years ago

If Tommorrow Never Comes

If I knew it would be the last time

that I’d see you fall asleep,

I would tuck you in more tightly

and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.

If I knew it would be the last time

that I see you walk out the door,

I would give you a hug and kiss

and call you back for one more.

If I knew it would be the last time

I’d hear your voice lifted up in praise,

I would video tape each action and word,

so I could play them back day after day.

If I knew it would be the last time,

I could spare an extra minute or two

to stop and say I love you,

instead of assuming you would KNOW I do.

If I knew it would be the last time

I would be there to share your day,

well I’m sure you’ll have so many more,

so I can let just this one slip away.

For surely there’s always tomorrow

to make up for an oversight,

and we always get a second chance

to make everything right.

There will always be another day

to say our I love you’s,

And certainly there’s another chance

to say our “Anything I can do’s?”

But just in case I might be wrong,

and today is all I get,

I’d like to say how much I love you

and I hope we never forget,

Tomorrow is not promised to anyone,

young or old alike,

And today may be the last chance you get

to hold your loved one tight..

So if you’re waiting for tomorrow,

why not do it today?

For if tomorrow never comes,

you’ll surely regret the day,

That you didn’t take that extra time

for a smile, a hug, or a kiss

and you were too busy to grant someone,

what turned out to be their one last wish.

So hold your loved ones close today,

whisper in their ear,

Tell them how much you love them

and that you’ll always hold them dear,

Take time to say “I’m sorry, please forgive me,”

“thank you” or “it’s okay”.

And if tomorrow never comes,

you’ll have no regrets about today.

I love & miss you. Happy birthday brother.

Love your sister, Dianne

Pamela Smarsh & Family
8 years ago

Joey, Even though we have not kept in touch the past years, I will always remember our good times. Like when you would come to our house parties when I lived with the 3 girls in Morristown. You would come early and do all our hair. So we would look so beautiful!!! Another story I would like to mention is this past Wednesday night August 28th. I received a baseball card of Mike Piazza out of a cereal box. So, I told Kyle the story about how you use to cut his hairback in the day. And how the T.V. station interviewed you. Because Mike liked his hair long and the baseball commission wanted it shorter. So, they asked you- your opinion. You said its O.K. as long as it isn’t all kooky. You couldn’t believe you said kooky on national T.V. : Anyway I thought it was strange that here I was telling Kyle this story that happen so many years ago. Then I went in my room and put the baseball card on my dresser. The following day my mom calls to tell me you’re in critical condition. The next day she calls to tell me you past away. I mentioned the Mike Piazza story to her and she said that was your way of saying good-bye to me. Maybe she was right. Thank you for thinking about me. I will never forget you. I love you. Your cousin Pam

8 years ago


You’ve Always Been a Great Brother

This Christmas,

I’m looking back on the times

when we were growing up

and thinking about what it was like

to have you as a brother.

We weren’t best friends

and we didn’t share everything,

but we had a connection

that gave each of us

strength and comfort

when it was needed most.

Today I still feel

that connection with you.

And as we’ve grown and changed

and become the people

that we are,

I realize that this connection

is more than just being

a part of the same family.

It’s a history that we share,

a trust we can both count on,

and a love that’s always there.

You’re a Great Brother…

Merry Christmas!

I love & miss you.

Love, your sister Dianne

Doug Yarbrough
8 years ago

Joseph, i will remember you as a very unique person with a very quick wit about you and a very funny personality and an excelent

hairdresser. I know how much i and the rest of your family will miss you. even though we did not always get along no one and i do mean no one deserves to leave this earth so soon. via-con dios untill we all meet again. your future brother-in law, Doug.

Aunt Kate
8 years ago

Joseph, You are now dancing with the Angels. Till we meet again, you will always be in my heart and thoughts. Love, Aunt Kate

Dianne M. O'Donnell
8 years ago

To My Baby Brother

I was six years old when we first met

And you had experienced only an hour of life

Staring into those two dark eyes

That peered at me from the depths of my mother’s arms

I realized that I had a brother

At first I didn’t like you much

You cried and fussed and stole my mother away

While I stood waiting, watching,

Hoping that you would leave so things could return to normal

But you remained here

Time passed quickly in my child-mind

Soon we were playing together on the swing set

You followed me and my friends around

And waging war on one another with winter snowballs

We became good friends

Then I reached my teenage years

Trading coloring books and sandboxes for “adult things”

I pulled away from you

To find my place in a world of false friends and identities

But you waited for me

Through the years we’ve grown together

With a love that only true sister and brother can know

Sharing good times as well as bad

And although we inhabit two different, separate bodies

Within us beats one heart

You are leaving this place now

Embarking on a journey to find your future

But though we will be far apart

Remember that you are my friend and will always be my brother.

I love you.

Love your sister Dianne

Dianne M. O'Donnell
8 years ago

To My Baby Brother, This Is a Very

Special Birthday Wish

… and It’s Especially

for You!

Year after year, I search for

a way to tell you how I feel

about you on your birthday,

and everytime I wonder

if it hasn’t all been said before.

But this message is extra special

because it contains all the laughter

that only we have shared.

This is to remind you

of how unique our relationship is

and to tell you that you could never, ever

be replaced in my life.

It is to let you know

how much I appreciate you.

It’s a thank-you for every time

you have shared a worry or tear,

every time you have listened and been

the only one who understood,

and every time you were there

when I had no where else to turn.

It’s to assure you that our relationship

is one of the most important in my life

and that you are not only my brother,

but a dear and treasured friend.

I love you, little brother,

and hope your birthday will be the beginning

of a year of happiness and success in your new journeyís.

I miss you.

Love your sister,


Amie Doyno
8 years ago

To The Bolcarovic Family:

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts are with you during this time.

Nancy Martin Molten
8 years ago

To the Bolcarovic Family:

Although it has been years since we have seen each other, our family’s have such a long history. I feel like we all grew up together, and I was deeply saddened by Joey’s death. Know that you all are in my heart and prayers.

Love always,

Nancy and Family

Lenore Wolke
8 years ago

To the Bolcarovic Family: I am so so shocked. I just cannot believe it. I spoke to Joseph just the other day, and he asked me to pray for him during his surgery on Wednesday. When I called today to see how he was doing, I cannot express my surprise. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. I am going to miss him too.

Sincerely, Lenore Wolke

8 years ago

Uncle Joe-

Although we may be worlds apart,

or maybe just a thousand miles,

you are never far from my thoughts.

We may never meet to laugh

or hug eachother again.

But you will always be

right here next to me,

And I there with you.

causeI LOVE YOU.. and miss you!

I will never forget you or the memories we shared together…I LOVE YOU!

Kristin Bolcarovic
8 years ago

Uncle Joe-

I will always remember you. I will remember your smile the most and how you lite up the room wherever you were. Theres nothing but good memories, St. Thomas, shopping, doing my hair, our late night talks…everything! I LOVE YOU and you will be missed dearly

~Your goddaughter, Kristin

Alyssa O'Donnell
8 years ago

Uncle Joe,

I loved it when u talk to me

and the way u cut my hair

you were funny the way u tried to read my mind

I miss u so much it makes me cry,

it even makes me rhyme

I loved it when ure always rite

I loved the way u made me laugh

and never even made me cry

I miss you when ure not around

and the fact that i didnt see you one last time hurts me inside

But most of all I wish you were here,

you had your life going good. you fixed it up.

but now your in peace. we all miss you but we will all see you .. sooner or later..

I love you

Love your neice,


8 years ago

we will miss joey very much,in just the short time we’ve known him he has become a very special friend.,his kind and gentle spirit will be remembered as it is inherited from his wonderful family. he spoke often of his love for his family and thought everyone should be so lucky as to have a mother like his and thought she deserves the world. my own granmother told me when my son was born that GOD only loans us our children so they can make us better people and we have to remember that when he calls them home to him,He has another journey for them.God bless……..we love you all……

Mary Ann
8 years ago

You are in our hearts and in our prayers. We are so sorry to hear of your loss.