Edward P. McCarthy

December 10, 1920 - May 1, 2010

12/10/1920 - 05/01/2010

Edward P. McCarthy

NORFOLK- Edward P. McCarthy, a World War II Navy veteran, born in Brooklyn New York on December 10, 1920, to the late Harry E. McCarthy and Genevieve Mulhern McCarthy, and a retired New York City fireman with 38 years of service with Marine Company 1, weighed anchor for the final voyage on May 1, 2010. A loving family man with a zest for life and an ever-present sense of humor, he showed great love for reading, fine cuisine, Scrabble, gardening, the N.Y.Yankees, and foreign languages. He was proud of his Irish ancestry and with his daughter and son-in- law made several wonderful trips to Ireland, as well as Germany and Austria. His ability to engage others in humor and cameraderie was a delight to all. He had beautiful penmanship. Above all he had a great love for the U.S. Navy, in which he served in World War II, as an engineer on a Pacific theater aircraft carrier, the USS Saginaw Bay. His ship saw much combat action yet he was always quick to say “the young kids like the pilots and Marines were the heroes, not me.” Ed was a 17-year volunteer at the Long Island State Veterans’ Home in Stony Brook, N. Y. until he moved to Norfolk in 2008 to be closer to his family. He made friends quickly and kept them for life, among these the many residents of The Talbot on Granby, a senior living apartments complex where he resided until he moved to Heritage Hall in Virginia Beach, where he also had many friends among the Staff and fellow residents. On Valentine’s Day of this year he was crowned “King of Heritage Hall”, a title and role that delighted him.

Ed was the widower of Margaret Joan McCarthy and was predeceased by his two sisters, Miriam Finan and Patricia Schwallbach. He is survived by his daughter, Sharon M. Cummings and her husband, Buck, of Norfolk, Va., his daughter, Maureen M. McCarthy and her husband, Michael Sullivan, of N. Ferrisburg, Vt., his son, Kevin E. McCarthy, and the mother of his grandchildren, Amy V. McCarthy, and his beloved grandchildren, Fergus Patrick, Owen Edward, Claire Margaret, and Nola Rose, all of Buffalo, N.Y. He is also survived by his two step granddaughters, Anna C. Cummings and Julia M. Rafalko, her husband Kevin and their two children, Rebecca Anne and Ryan Matthew.

The family would like to thank the staff of Heritage Hall, Dr. Pran Iruvanti of the V.A. Medical Center in Hampton, Va. and the staff of Sentara Leigh for their compassionate and outstanding care.

The intent of the family, in keeping with his spirit as a Navy sailor and his appreciation for the sacrifices of our service men and women, is to commit his remains to a burial at sea from a U.S. Navy ship at a later and private time. Almeyer Funeral Homes is handling other arrangements. In lieu of flowers charitable gifts may be made, in his honor, to Ed’s favorite organization, The USO, P.O. Box 96860, Washington, DC 20077.

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Amy McCarthy
8 years ago

‘Dad’ and I shared many exciting and competetive scrabble games on his visits to Buffalo…he taught me many new words to expand my game. I am honored to have known him and happy to have been able to see his pleasure in watching his grandchildren grow. He will be greatly missed by all. xoxo

Victoria Lagana
8 years ago

Although I had never met your Dad, I felt as if I had. You, Sharon, always spoke so highly of him, his achievments and where he came from. Men of his generation had such honor and pride. I know how he will be missed. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Yours,

Victoria and Matthew Lagana

Colonel Charles Jones USMCR
8 years ago

Dear Sharon and Buck,

I regret your loss. What an unselfish, sharing, full career and life of service no longer with us. We are left with memories of bravery and service in civilian life and in WWII, with the classic WWII veteran attitude of deflecting credit for himself and giving it to others.

In Persistence, Semper Fidelis,

Charles A. Jones, Colonel, USMCR Retired.

Susan Antoni
8 years ago

Dear Sharon and Buck,

As Director of Marketing for The Talbot on Granby, I had the priveledge of seeing Ed on a daily basis when he resided with us. His smile, humor, charm and compassion added so much to The Talbot. He left a lasting impression with staff and the other residents. Personally, I will ALWAYS remember Ed McCarthy! He is a fine example of a truly GOOD person that most of us can only strive to be. I feel honored to have had the priviledge of knowing him. My heartfelt sympathy to you both.

Stacey Kraft
8 years ago

Dear Sharon and Buck,

We will always remember your dad with fond memories of his warm smile, great sense of humor and wonderful outlook on life. I will always remember how he looked on St. Patrick’s Day, all dressed up for the occassion! And of course I’ll remember the day I asked him if he wanted to receive ashes, going out for pizza and ice cream and I’ll always remember how happy he was to have you two in his life.

He was loved by our staff and he will be greatly missed. We all send our deepest sympathy. Know that you will be in our thoughts and prayers.

With love,

Stacey and all at Heritage Hall

Ken & Julie
8 years ago

Dear Sharon,

It was by your early intervention, attention to his every need, and moreover the kind and caring hearts of a loving daughter and her ever-present helpmate that Ed would know and enjoy such quality of life to the end. Though a New Yorker at heart, Ed surely embraced the role as Southern Gentleman if not by choice, but by selection as he accepted the mantle as “King of Heritage Hall” with a sense of dignity, grace, and a unique brand of good humor that marked the man. Though our time with Ed was all too brief, we mourn with you his passing; for Ed was not just your father, but a member of the “Greatest Generation” and parents to us all, who along with countless others answered his country’s call, served honorably, faithfully, and with distinction as the world came to a boil and an uncertain future loomed. As Ed has now joined those who did not return, and has taken his place among all others who have answered the final call, may you find comfort in the flash-backs that will surely follow of a life fully lived by a man who truly loved his country, his community, his extended family, and you, his loving daughter.

With deepest sympathy,

Herb & Sandy Schutt
8 years ago

Dear Sharon,

Our deepest sympathy and sincere condolences to you and Buck. You will be in our thoughts.

Gordon Keiser
8 years ago

Dear Sharon,

Please accept our sincere condolences. May God be with you at this most difficult time.

Gordy & Gloria

Gerard Hauy
8 years ago

Dear Sharon,

we deeply feel your loss and at this time our hearts and prayers are with you and Buck.

Very sincerely,

Gabriela and Gerard Hauy

Tiffany Moore
8 years ago

Dear Sharon, You must have been proud of your DAD. He has many achievements, I will be thinking of you…love Tiffany Moore

Sue and Charlie Hobbs
8 years ago

Dear Sharon, Your Dad was a very special person. It was nice to have met and known him for the short time that we did. We know that you will dearly miss him.

Love, Sue and Charlie

Billy Goodson
8 years ago

Even though we all know that this day is inevitable, we are never ready for it.

But, fortunately, you have many years of wonderful memories to reflect back on. Although I never met Ed, I heard many stories from Sharon, which revealed what a fun “People Person” he was.

Please accept my condolences. I know your Dad will be missed by many.

Billy

Anna Cummings
8 years ago

I feel very lucky to have known Mr. McCarthy AKA Grandpa Ed. He was such a kind hearted soul and a generous and friendly person. I will always remember our last dinner out together, to the pizza place across from Heritage Hall. It was always so great to share meals and laughs with him. I will always cherish the trip we took to Ireland and all of the smiles he made throughout that green country.

I know that my Dad and Sharon worked hard to make sure that the last few years Ed had with us were comfortable and loving. I am sure that Mr. McCarthy is smiling down on all of us now, knowing he touched our lives. He will be missed!

Love,

Anna

Rabbi Joseph Topek
8 years ago

I knew Ed when he volunteered at the Long Island State Veterans Home. Ed was one of the nicest, kindest, most elegant men that I have had the pleasure to know there. A real patriot and proud New Yorker, Navy veteran and fire fighter, we all looked up to him. May you be comforted in your grief and may his memory always be a blessing to his family and all those privileged to know him.

Rabbi Joseph Topek, Chaplain, LISVH

Claas Wolf
8 years ago

Ich als Sohn von Ekkehard Wolf Kommandant von U-966 habe Ed bei einem Treffen der U-Boot Kammeradschaft getroffen und Ihn als lieben und symphatischen Mann kennen gelernt der gut zu den alten UBoot-Fahrern passte, er, seine Tochter und sein Schwiegersohn waren gern gesehene Gäste bei diesen Treffen und ich glaube ich spreche im Namen der verbleibenden Besatzung von U966 das wir es tief betrauern das Ed von uns gegangen ist, wir sind in Gedanken mit seiner Familie und werden seiner immer in Ehren gedenken.

Wir wuenschen seiner Familie Staerke und alles Gute

Claas,Silke,Jan,Pili und Ali Wolf

mit den Kindern

Michael Romczykowski
8 years ago

Liebe Sharon,

wir, der “Freundeskreis U966”, moechten Dir unser tief empfundenes Beileid ueber den Verlust deines Vaters aussprechen. Wir lernten Ed bei seinen Besuchen unserer Treffen in Deutschland und Oesterreich als einen humorvollen und sympathischen Mann kennen.

Die Veteranen von U966 haben einen lieben Freund verloren. Wir werden Ed immer in Ehren gedenken.

Michael Romczykowski

Freundeskreis U966

Mark Schneider
8 years ago

Sharon – Your dad was a hero! One of the “greatest generation.” My condolences and deepest sympathy, of course.

Mark

Eric and Louise Morgenson
8 years ago

Sharon,

Louise and I were saddened to learn of your fatherís passing. I did not have the privilege of meeting your dad, but from Buckís accounts of him I can appreciate the exceptional man he is. I intentionally use the phrase: ìÖthe exceptional man he isÖ,î because I donít believe he is truly gone. Rather, he is merely waiting in another locale until you can be reunited. Having served 24 years in the Navy, I respect your fatherís service to our country. Both my father and grandfather were in the Navy and fought in the South Pacific during World War II. As a Third Class Midshipman, I spent my summer cruise in the engine room of the cruiser U.S.S. Columbus. Later in my career, I was a crewmember on the aircraft carrier U.S.S. Dwight D. Eisenhower.

Please accept our sincere condolences. The joy he brought into the world can be measured by the depth of your grief at his passing. Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers. We take comfort in knowing your father is himself once again, and you all will be reunited one day. We pray God will help ease the pain of your temporary loss.

With deepest sympathy,

Peter Gerlach
8 years ago

Sharon,

Very sorry to hear about the passing of your father. Sounds like he was not only a wonderful father, but also a great man. I am sure he will be greatly missed. However, your memories of him will be with you forever.

Linda Banyay
8 years ago

Sharon,

We are so sorry for your loss. It was delightful to meet your dad when we shared dinner at Olive Garden last fall. He was a great man with many stories to tell and he will be missed. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

Linda & Wendell

Bob Lenney
8 years ago

Sorry to hear of the passing of Ed. I worked with him as a pilot in Marine 1. One of the stories about Ed was a group of Japanese tourists asked him how to get to the Statue of Liberty ferry. His response was “you had no trouble finding Pearl Harbor, find it yourself.

Julia Rafalko
8 years ago

Thank you, Grandpa Ed, for being so good to me, to my husband, and to our kids. We’ll miss you!

Buck
8 years ago

This is a translation of the condolence message sent from Germany, from the spokeman for the U 966 reunion group, Claas Wolf:

As the son Claas of Ekkehard Wolf, commander of U 966, I met Ed at a reunion of the U-boat crewmen’s community in Hamburg in 2000 and got to know him as a loving and sympathetic man who fit well with the old submarine drivers, and where he, his daughter, and his son-in-law were welcome guests at this reunion. I think I speak on behalf of the remaining crewmen of the U 966 that we mourn deeply that Ed is gone from us, and that we are thinking of his family and will always remember him with honor.

We wish his family strength and all the best.

Claas, Silke, Jan, Pili und Ali Wolf

with the children

Buck
8 years ago

This is a translation of the second condolence message sent from Germany, written by Michael Romczykowski,son of diesel mechanic Erich Romczykowski. Michael is part of the second generation of the U 966 community who loved Ed as much as the original veterans of the U-boat.

Dear Sharon,

We, the circle of U 966 friends, want to express to you our deepest condolences over the loss of your father. We got to know Ed, during his visits to Germany and Austria, as a humorous and sympathetic man. The veterans of U 966 have lost a dear friend. We will always remember Ed in honor.

Michael Romczykowski

U966 friendship community

Cologne, Germany

May 6, 2010

Trisha & Randy
8 years ago

We enjoyed having Ed on the few occasions when he came to “pizza.” But our best memory is of one 4th of July sitting on your side porch in a wonderfully bright red, white and blue striped shirt with a smile as bright as the shirt! Did Marcus take a picture?

Sharon, you took such good care of him when he came south to live. You should have no regrets at all. He obviously loved you dearly as you did him. I know you’ll miss him but he will still be with you every day… in your heart.

Our thoughts and prayers…..

Buck
8 years ago

Your Dad and I had a special relationship for 12 years and I will miss him dearly. God bless you for your unselfish and loving care to him. As he often said, “What would I do without you, Sharon?” Thank you for being the loving person you are, always.

Buck

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