David Lee Caldon

June 6, 1942 - December 14, 2007

06/06/1942 - 12/14/2007

Past Services

Tuesday December 18, 2007
7:00 pm - 9:00 pm
Altmeyer Funeral Home - Virginia Beach
5792 Greenwich Road
Virginia Beach, VA 23462
800-934-4648 | Directions
Wednesday December 19, 2007
12:00 pm
St. Stephen Martyr
1544 S. Battlefield Blvd.
Chesapeake, VA
Friday December 21, 2007
10:00 am

David Lee Caldon
CHESAPEAKE- David Lee Caldon, 65, passed away in his home on December 14, 2007.

Mr. Caldon retired from the United States Marine Corps as a Lieutenant Colonel and served two tours in Vietnam. He was the recipient of the Silver Star Medal, the Defense Meritorious Service Medal, Air Medal with Gold Star and 18th Award, Combat Action Ribbon, Navy Achievement Medal with Valor, Presidential Unit Citation with Bronze Star, Navy Unit Commendation, Meritorious Unit commendation, Humanitarian Service Medal, Sea Service Deployment Ribbon, National Defense Service Medal and Vietnam Service Medal with two stars.

He was an investment associate with Merrill Lynch for the past 21 years and attended St. Stephen Martyr Catholic Church in Chesapeake.

He is survived by his wife, Susan P. Caldon; two sons, Christopher C. Caldon and wife Heather of Virginia Beach, and James P. Caldon and wife Alisha of Ramona, California; four grandchildren, Delaney, Caitlin and Noah Caldon and Alexis Williamson; father, Clifton Mailes Caldon; brother, Brian Edward Caldon and wife Virginia of East Berne, New York; sister, Janet Kochanowski and husband Jack of Avon, Connecticut; and several nieces and nephews. He was predeceased by his mother, Eleanor Estabrook Caldon.

The visitation will be held at Altmeyer Funeral Home, Southside Chapel, on Tuesday, December 18, 2007 from 7:00pm to 9:00pm. The Funeral Mass will be held at St. Stephen Martyr Catholic Church 1544 S. Battlefield Boulevard, Chesapeake on Wednesday, December 19, 2007 at 12:00pm with Monsignor Michael D. McCarron officiating. Burial will take place in the Albert G. Horton Jr. Veterans Cemetery in Suffolk on Friday, December 21, 2007 at 10:00am.

Memorial donations may be made to the American Cancer Society.

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Nobulee Mulvaney & Dave Burgess
8 years ago

Brian & Ginny,

Our deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family during this time. We are here if you need anything.

Rob Ricci
8 years ago

Dave Caldon was a great man. I enjoyed working with him for 5 years at Merrill Lynch. He was the quintessential Marine. He embodied character that is highly valued and rarely seen; Dave lived by his integrity, honor, respect, dependability and trust. I will always remember him.

James J. Everley
8 years ago

Dave Caldon was one of the finest Men and Marines I have ever known. I am proud to have served with him on Hill 700 on April 6, 1968 and on Hill 558 through out the “Siege Of Khe Sanh”. My Condolences to his wife Susie and all of his family members. Warm Regards, James J. Everley

Michelle Harrington
8 years ago

Dave was a wonderful co-worker and I am proud to have known him. He always went above and beyond to care for others and his great character was evident in everything he did. He will be missed very much.

Sandra Peters
8 years ago

Dave was a wonderful co-worker, mentor, and friend. We offer our deepest condolences to all of his family and friends. He will be missed.

– Sandra and Jason –

Terry Perkins
8 years ago

Dave was a wonderful man and one of my first contacts at Merrill Lynch. He shared with me plenty of knowledge,stories, advice and genuine friendship. I am so sorry to hear of his untimely death. Please know that I will keep his family in my thoughts and prayers.

Gay LaRue
8 years ago

Dave was the person who helped me get started as a rookie at Merrill Lynch – always there with a cup of coffee and a word of encouragement. My husband and I will both miss him.

Philip Campbell
8 years ago


My thoughts and prayers are with you. God Bless


Bob & Mary Wilman
8 years ago

Dear Caldon Family,

A man that positively impacts one other human being while on this earth can stand tall as a success story. Dave joins his Lord knowing that he was a success. As we celebrate Dave’s life let us be reminded that he goes onto to be with his Lord and Savior and awaits our arrival to the GP-5 tent in the sky personal story of Dave. I served with Dave as his Operations Officer in 204. He was a fantastic role model that I learned so much from. I later returned to New RIver and became the Commanding Officer of 204 – I hope I did him proud.

Bob Wilman, LtCol. USMCRet

Tom Hewes
8 years ago

Dear Caldon Family,

Please accept my sincere condolences on Dave’s untimely passing.

I remember him with great fondness as the Commanding Officer of Marine Helicopter Training Squadron 204, Marine Aircraft Group 26, in 1981 at Marine Corps Air Station New River, NC.

He was a standout among a superb group of COs, respected by all for his warm personality, exceptional character, and outstanding leadership of Marines.

Lieutenant Colonel Dave Caldon served his country with distinction and honor, epitomizing throughout his career the motto of our Corps, Semper Fidelis.

Tom Hewes, Col. USMC Ret

Jennifer W. Pinette
8 years ago

Dear Sue-Sue, Chris, Heather, Noah, Jimmy, Alicia, Delaney, Katie and Uncle David’s family,

Our thoughts and prayers go out to all of you during this time. We wish that we could be with you to offer you support and love. Know that we are thinking of all of you and sending you our love. We love you, Jenn, Joe & Tommy

Susan Kolarik
8 years ago

Dear Susan, Jim, Chris, Uncle Cliff, Brian, Janet, and all those who loved Dave:

I was so sorry to hear of Dave’s recurring struggle with this difficult illness and want to express my deep sympathy for your loss. How very hard to have that loss follow so soon upon Auntie Eleanor’s, but I pray that it is a comfort to you to think of their reunion, to picture him passing right into her arms as well as into the presence of our heavenly Father. You have been and are in our thoughts and prayers, as we mourn with you Dave’s passing from our current lives.

He told such a great story at my father’s funeral, which added so much to the memorial. We appreciated his contribution so much. Love to all of you, Susan

Sue Bousa
8 years ago

Dear Susie and family,

I woke up with a horrible feeling about Dave a few minutes ago and had to google him and found his obituary. I am so sorry for your loss. He always made me feel part of the family through all the years of heartache. I e mailed him last month and did not get a note back. I am so glad he got to go to the wedding in Ca. The kids and I are better people for knowing and loving him. Heaven is lucky to have him now. What a great angel he will make.

Love Sue,Courtney and Joe

Edward and Pat Mata
8 years ago

Dear Susie and family,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Ed and I enjoyed meeting you in VA in April. One never thinks something like this will happen to a newly made friend. I really enjoyed visiting with you. May knowing what an honerable man he was and the dedication to his country will confort you in your loss. Sincerely,

Ed and Pat Mata,


Ann Onhaizer
8 years ago

Dear Susie and family,

I’ve had the pleasure of working with Dave for over twenty years. He taught me a lot about our business, but mostly about more important things, like being a true friend, having a great attitude, and living a wonderful life. He will remain in our hearts, and you will stay in our prayers. God’s peace,

Jennifer Duffy
8 years ago

Dear Susie, I had the privilege of working with Dave for 17 years. He was so passionate about his work and his family and all that he did.

His spirit will live in all of us. He made this country and this world a better place. Semper Fi, Jennifer Duffy

Jennifer W. Pinette
8 years ago

Dear Uncle David,

May St. Anne continue to watch over you in heaven. I love you,


Robert Pigott
8 years ago

He was Merrill Lynch to me.I will

miss him.

Sue Esselman
8 years ago

I didn’t know Dave all that well, but attended a couple of Khe Sanh Reunions with my brother, James J. Everley and our family and met him. James has been so saddened the last couple of weeks with the news that Dave was ill and James speaks so highly of Dave. Please know he will be missed by so many people you probably don’t even know. Our thoughts and prayers are with your family. Terry and Sue Esselman

Mike Mullen
8 years ago

I flew with Dave in 1972 in HMA-369. He was one of the best pilots, and the finest men I have ever known. He was a real leader. He was moral, with unquestioned integrity, a fine example of an officer and a man of Christ…even then. He was, and is still, one of my heroes. I was lucky enough to see him and Suzie, and introduce them to my sweet wife at a POPASMOKE reunion several years ago, and I thought then that I would love to live closer to them….it would have been wonderful to share more of our lives. Go with Jesus Dave; I know you are happy now.

Sylvia Rose
8 years ago

I join the Merrill Lynch family in expressing my sincere condolences. Dave was such a nice person. Although I did not work with him on a daily basis, on every occasion that I was in his presence he was very pleasant and helpful. He will be missed. God Bless you all.

Shirley Dannenhoffer
8 years ago

I met Dave 18 years ago when I started with Merrill Lynch. He was such caring and sweet man. He always made me laugh with his funny sense of humor. Thinking of you and your family during this very sad time. Cherish your memories.

Shirley Needham Dannenhoffer

Kay Collins
8 years ago

I met Dave at Jack’s birthday party in June. I’m so very sorry for your loss.

Kay Collins

Laurie Bisset Grady
8 years ago

I met Dave in May 2006. I was able to join my niece Jennifer Finn Duffy at a Merrill Lynch retreat in Arizona, and Dave joined us for dinner and swimming.

In a short time, I knew he was a delightful person . . . and was so pleased to see the connection he had with Jennifer and her children.

We laughed many, many times throughout dinner . . . and had a really great visit.

I am keeping all of you in my prayers . . . and know Dave is still with you — ever close in your memories and hearts.

John Street
8 years ago

I was honored to serve with Dave, God Bless Him and his Family…

Rebecca Ellis
8 years ago

I wish to express my deepest condolences to you as you mourn Dave’s death. I first got to know Dave 17 years ago, when my husband and I first transferred our assets to his group. Dave was a wonderful, caring individual who treated us as important clients, no matter how much we had invested. He helped me and my family as we mourned the loss of my husband together. He always took the time to ask about the family and was genuinely interested in our lives. I had complete confidence that he would take care of my financial needs in the same way he would for family. I considered Dave not only by Financial Advisor, but also a friend. My prayers are with you and your family.

Kristin Estabrook
8 years ago

I’m sorry that I cannot be with you, but know that you will take strength from each other and the love of family. David’s smile and laughter will be missed by us all and remembered fondly.

Bill Burch
8 years ago

Just a moment to say I was blessed to have known and work with David. I have always respected his professionalism and most of all loved his committment to his family. I am truly saddened by his departure but know he is happy with the Lord and I am sure showing him how to correct a few things!!!!

Love you Dave. Bill

Larry McCartney
8 years ago

May the good Lord bless and keep you Colonel, you will NEVER be fogotten. SEMPER FIDELIS!!!

Sam Beamon
8 years ago

My heart goes out to you Susie and the rest of Dave’s family. You are not taking this loss by yourself. I know that Dave is at rest and there is no more pain. He will be missed but never forgotten. May God bless you and give you the strength to carry you through this difficult time.

Semper Fi – Sam Beamon

Rich Ryan
8 years ago

My prayers are with the family. Dave will be missed and thought of in my memories. I will always remember Dave trying to lift these heavy paper boxes that we have in the office instead of asking for my help or using the dolly. He had heart and didn’t let anything get him down. I even remember how we both tried to find the fastest route to work since he lived out in Chesapeake and I in Salem we both took the same route to work and looked for short cuts : again my sympathies. Rich

The Monteros & Guidrys
8 years ago

Our family would like to offer our deepest condolences to ALL of you.

We are honored to have had Dave in our lives.

All our love, Sam, Peggy, Marian, Sonia, Elena.

Matthew & Sylvia McClish
8 years ago

Our thoughts and prayers go out to the family and friends of Dave who touched so many lives. He will be greatly missed.

Mitchell and Peggy Fine
8 years ago

So sorry for your loss. We were unaware that Dave had passed and just found out today. He was a good friend at Merrill Lynch and a pleasure to be around. Our deepest condolences at this time

Butch Powell
8 years ago


While I have never met you, I know you. More than a business relationship Dave is my friend. I will always have the joy of knowing him and will always be able to hear his warm hello. God bless. Will keep you in my prayers.

Eleanor Munchel
8 years ago

Sue, sorry for your loss – am thinking of you and your family.


James J Stark
8 years ago

Susan and Family, I just found out today that Dave left this earth in Dec. 2007, to report to Saint Peter to guard the streets of heaven with his other brother Marines that left before him. I know somday when I go and you and the other MArhuker’s ewillgreet us with oen arms.


Bill and Dawn Preston
8 years ago


Dawn and I just learned of Dave’s passing and wish to express our deepest sympathy. While we served together only in HMT-204, he was an excellent Commanding Officer and a mentor whose guidance I cherish to this day.

Bill and Dawn Preston

Duke and Nicki Savage
8 years ago

Susan, we just learned of your loss. Dave was a great husband, father and Marine. It was our honor to have served with you and Dave during the A-4 Skyhawk tours at MCAS Beaufort. Our prayers and condolences continue for you and family.

Sincerely, Duke and Nicki

Tom & Kate Byrnes
8 years ago

Susie and Family,

Kate and I just learned of Dave’s passing this evening. We are very sorry for your loss and join you in this time of grief. Dave was an awesome financial advisor, whose hard word and dedication will never be matched. Dave gave me my first brewing kit in the early 90’s. I also had the pleasure of brewing a scotch ale with Dave before he stopped the brewing. Actually I have most of his old brewing equipment and will drink toast to him next time we use it. We will also remember him at our next beer club meeting. Thanks for the friendship Dave, we will miss you. We just wanted his family to know how much he did for us. We know that you’ll have lasting memories of his good works to cherish forever Tom& Kate Byrnes

Cheryl and Kent Donahue
8 years ago

Susie and family:

I’ll never forget working with Dave at Merrill Lynch with his upbeat spirit and friendliness. He will be missed by his Merrill Lynch family. The video tribute is beautiful. Please take care and know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Dave Corbett
8 years ago

Susie, I am sorry that we never met, but be it know that Dave was, and will continue to be, a Marine’s Marine. I had the honor of serving with Dave durning the MARHUK years, and without his leadership, that mission would not have been a success. I know all the men and women that served with him feel the same. The world is a little less without his presence.

Dave Corbett

Col. USMC Ret.

Tom & Kate Byrnes
8 years ago

Sussie and Family,

Kate and I just learned of Dave’s passing this evening. We are very sorry for your loss and join you in this time of grief. Dave was an awesome financial advisor, whose hard word and dedication will never be matched. Dave gave me my first brewing kit in the early 90’s. I also had the pleasure of brewing a scotch ale with Dave before he stopped the brewing. Actually I have most of his old brewing equipment and will drink toast to him next time we use it. We will also remember him at our next beer club meeting. Thanks for the friendship Dave, we will miss you. We just wanted his family to know how much he did for us. We know that you’ll have lasting memories of his good works to cherish forever Tom& Kate Byrnes

Ray and Jan Everley
8 years ago

Thank you Susie for sharing Dave with us, even for a short time. Our prayers are with you and Dave will be missed by all. Dave is bidding and playing 7 NT with better players than us.

8 years ago


Ken Estabrook
8 years ago

To Susie, Chris, and Jim, and to Cliff, Janet, and Brian:

I’m so sorry for your loss…my thoughts are with each of you today and in the days to come. Dave was a loving and caring cousin, such a positive role model for so many of us who were younger.

Edward DeVite
8 years ago

To the Caldon family I send my sincerest condolences. Dave, or “Marble” as he was best known to me, was like a solid place in a shakey world, and I will always be grateful for having known him. I served with Dave during the MARHUK operations in North Vietnam. It was my first tour in combat, his second tour in the Vietnam War. The example of his even approach to our operations made dealing with the mission and the circumstances manageable for me. I figured if this guy with the broad smile and deep chuckle survived a tour and could still laugh at the humor in life, I could do the same. I owe him a lot for that. I can not think of Dave and not hear his laugh. I’ll always be grateful for his proof that I could make it home and and not lose myself in the process. My prayers are with you all.

Cindy and Jim Seager
8 years ago

To the Family of David Lee Caldon:

It is with greatest sympathy that we offer our deepest condolences at the lost of your loved one. Our hopes and prayers go out to all of you at this very difficult time.

Clifford and Kathleen Bruinsma
8 years ago

We are very thankful for Mr. Caldon’s fine work on behalf of our daughter. He got us started investing for her college and she now has all 4 years plus graduate school taken care of. He was a kind and compassionate help to us. Our sympathies to his family.